I love this, thank you. Of course, it’s about violence, not sex and it’s true, analogies sometimes miss that point. As well, you’re right “those who get it tweet”. The comments here serve to explain the necessity of simplifying and showing support.
All said — the most insightful and striking point I’ve ever read about rape culture is yours — that notion of exchange. That clinches it. Besides violence, many cases of rape have a skewed entitlement to them. To me, you’ve just unveiled a rarely recognized piece of this complex behaviour. That will stay with me long after this post.