Your Grass, My Grass

Terence C.
Jul 30, 2017 · 2 min read

From time to time over the years, I’ve been hearing this particular line— “The grass is always greener on the other side (of the fence).” I’m alright with the phrase. It is simple, forthright and gets to the point. What I’m more concerned about is a lot of us are attempting to use it as a reason to raise the white flag in whatever we’re in pursuit of. We listen to common hearsay by others around us. We do a detailed research on how and why the grass is greener on the other side. Then, we put all these pieces together and try our best to justify this bluff that we hopelessly believe in. However, a bluff isn’t foolproof till someone else is convinced and bamboozled along with us, isn’t it?

So, we tell this story over and over again, of how we’re bleeding not because we are soft, but because the grass is too sharp for us to step on.

It cuts us deep — so deep that we should probably give up. It is comforting to know that someone else out there shares the same sentiment as us, isn’t it? Be that as it may, it really doesn’t matter whether or not people agree with this fabrication we spin out. It simply takes us to believe in our own Once Upon A Time to create our own Happily Ever After. It is all said and done.

This is when we fall. This is when we falter.

If we are truly honest with ourselves, we’ll know it isn’t a valid reason at all. Rather, it is an excuse. We may assume that others have it better than us, or know that they actually have it better than us, but such an external factor shouldn’t be of any deterrent to our personal goals. Yes, we may be envious, anxious and depressed by how little we have, however it should never set us back. We mustn’t be caught in our fairy tales.

We’re not a damsel in distress, constantly worrying if someone is going to save us whenever we’re in trouble.

In contrary, we need to learn to save ourselves. First, stop worrying. Second, start doing. Often, we are so concerned about what others are doing, what others have that we don’t, that we actually forget if we were to spend the next second on execution rather than contemplation, things would be better; even if it is just a tiny bit. I believe the core reason we’re looking elsewhere instead of our own patch of grass, is because we’re doubtful of ourselves. Let’s be honest. Doubt only appears when we’re not putting in the work. Doubt is only removed by our action. So until the point when we consistently put in the work and take care of our own patch of grass so well that we know for certain there are no better patches of grass elsewhere, we’ll remain doubtful forever.

Terence C.

There is a fine line between fishing and doing nothing. We would like to think that we’re fishing, but the truth is we don’t have the line.

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