A Safe-Word Theory of Social Liberation

Capitalism, BDSM, and Basic Income

Oshan Jarow
Jul 19, 2018 · 9 min read
Image courtesy of Michael Leunig

“There is something terrible, ridiculous, outrageous going on, but it’s not clear whether you are even allowed to acknowledge it, and it’s usually even less clear who or what can be blamed.” (David Graeber)


When stress transgresses tolerable boundaries during BDSM play — a sexual subculture juxtaposing power and dominance — there’s always a ‘safe-word’. One may simply say, “basket”, or whatever, and the atmosphere snaps from aggressive to supportive. Following the safe-word’s utterance, “The dominant partner may bring the submissive ice for any bruises, but it’s important to know that aftercare involves emotional care as well as physical”, writes GQ Magazine.

For life in industrial capitalist societies — a subculture also juxtaposing relations of power and dominance — there’s a neglect of safe-words. When life’s stressors transgress tolerable levels — people falling into insurmountable heaps of debt; single parents working interminable hours for their families; millennials trapped in jobs they hate to pay off predatory student loans; even that unstated malaise of modern living, where we yearn to ‘soul search’, but rarely find the time or money for it — no matter how heavy the physical or emotional burden, these trenches rarely offer a way out. One cannot simply say “basket” to an oppressive livelihood.

Perhaps, a safe-word in American capitalism is “wealth”. With wealth, one can afford to quit an undesirable job, leave an undesirable relationship, or reconsider an undesirable life. But wealth, as we know, is not widespread:

Neither, then, are safe-words. Without sufficient wealth, ‘opting out’ is rarely feasible. Our lives harden into fixed games we’re forced to cope with, or…what?

“Just work harder!” goes the American mantra. That swathes of humans living in both the wealthiest time and nation in history have little choice but to persist in vitality-draining drudgery, feeling trapped in their toil, seems odd.

The adjacent narrative of aggregate, statistical progress further confounds this state of affairs. Things today are the best they’ve ever been, Steven Pinker shows us. We live upon the crest of progress’ ever-upward slope. Improving health, poverty-reduction, and leisure time (a contentious point) trivialize modern complaints of exhaustion, angst, and meaninglessness.

As evidence-based as optimism might be, something’s missing from this portrait.

We might expect, or at least hope, that quantifiable progress implies immaterial counterparts. Though Pinker speaks of ‘happiness’, long-term statistical measures of well-being are notoriously suspect, especially across time and culture. We cannot reliably compare our own happiness to 1950’s America, let alone hunter gatherers. But we can speak to our own, and the scene is troubling.

Self-reported happiness remains unchanged since the 1950’s; social trust in America is eroding (curiously juxtaposed with surging nationalism); and mental anxieties, along with their pharmaceutical dependencies, are at record highs.

From D. G. Myers, Psychology, 11th Ed. (Worth Publishers, 2015)

Most troubling might be the violation of the premises Pinker himself lays out for progress to flourish:

“And this story [of progress] belongs not to any tribe but to all of humanity, to any sentient creature with the power of reason and the urge to persist in its being, for it requires only the convictions that life is better than death, health is better than sickness, abundance is better than want, freedom is better than coercion, happiness is better than suffering and knowledge is better than ignorance and superstition.”

Suicide rates rose 24% from 1999 to 2014. Increasingly, humans living at the supposed peak of progress are choosing death. Largely during the same timeframe, wants surged in prominence over abundance, driven by an economy thriving upon inculcating desires into consumers, siphoning abundance for shareholders.

What’s going on? Something insidious is occurring, and whatever the statistics of society today compared with history, it’s problematic.


David Graeber’s Safe-Word Theory of Social Liberation

Anthropologist David Graeber’s searing book — Bullshit Jobs: A Theory — speaks to this vexing state of affairs: the unspoken malaise of present-day capitalism:

“I would like this book to be an arrow aimed at the heart of civilization. There is something very wrong with what we have made ourselves. We have become a civilization based on work…as an end and meaning in itself. We have come to believe that men and women who do not work harder than they wish at jobs they do not particularly enjoy are bad people unworthy of love, care, or assistance…It is as if we have collectively acquiesced to our own enslavement.”

The greatest irony in this arrangement — an enslaved proletariat filling the wallets of an arcane 0.1% — is that it’s a game we all consent to playing:

“Every morning we wake up and re-create capitalism. If one morning we woke up and all decided to create something else, then there wouldn’t be capitalism anymore. There would be something else.”

Graeber’s an unapologetic anarchist, but even he acknowledges the problem isn’t ‘capitalism’ on the whole, but as it stands today. The modern fusion of economic and political imperatives distorts and distances the system from any vision laid out by Adam Smith, Ludwig Von Mises, or Milton Friedman (whose popular work, it should be noted, is titled “Free to Choose”). Today’s capitalism is more like an unweeded, overgrown garden than a thoughtfully constructed landscape.

If society is an ongoing collective agreement, he takes the point a step further:

“Together we create the world we inhabit. Yet if any one of us tried to imagine a world we’d like to live in, who would come up with one exactly like the one that currently exists?”

He writes like the son of Mark Twain & Robert Heilbroner

Why do we accept a world that drives our fellow humans into debt, depression, and despair? Yes — joy, love, abundance, and opportunity also exist in today’s milieu. Mindful presence is always available regardless of outer circumstances. But the emerging capitalist regurgitation of yogic practices will do little to mitigate student debt crises, the imbalance of returns (and taxes) on capital versus labor, or the neglected roots of mental health.

As Benjamin Franklin writes, “it is hard for an empty sack to stand upright.” The balance we find ourselves with appears neither sustainable nor desirable. It can, and should, be altered.

Does Pinker’s point that progress is occurring just fine stifle our imagination for social reform? This would be ironic, given that it’s largely political upheavals and social reorganizations that have sustained this long arc of progress.

The project of returning a healthier balance to our economic, psychological, even spiritual landscapes can learn from the BDSM safe-word model.

Our safe-word could be Universal Basic Income (UBI). It might form the foundation for what Graeber calls a ‘safe-word theory of social liberation’.

The theory extends from Michel Foucault’s late discovery of BDSM, and the influence this might’ve had upon his distinction between power and domination. Where he saw power dynamics as an inevitable aspect of social life, domination is not.

Foucault describes power dynamics as occurring between two liberties, where participation is voluntary. Parties are always ‘free to choose’, to utter a safe-word and opt out if discomfort escalates beyond tolerable levels. In relations of dominance, there’s no way out, no choice, no safe-word.

“…unlike actual BDSM play, where there’s always a safe-word, when ‘normal’ people fall into the same dynamic [economic sadomasochism], there’s never such an easy way out.” (Graeber)

UBI could raise ‘normal’ society to the level of emotional care already present in BDSM by providing a way out of dominant relations.


Free to Choose: Reimagining a Starved Conception of Freedom

It’s easy to imagine how the implementation of an economic safe-word (UBI) might ripple out into psychological and spiritual (not to mention entrepreneurial, creative, and communal) spheres. If much psychological distress derives from economic insecurity — a hypothesis well-supported by Maslow’s hierarchy — the policy has robust ameliorative potential.

“…a safe-word theory of social liberation. Because this would be the obvious solution. It’s not so much that certain games are fixed — some people like fixed games, for whatever reasons — but that sometimes, you can’t get out of them…How do we create only games that we actually feel like playing, because we can opt out at any time? In the economic field, at least, the answer is obvious.” (Graeber)

If within our abilities (if UBI can be sensibly funded), why not make society’s relations ones of power, rather than dominance? Why not provide everyone with a choice?

It’s conceivable that we’re now witnessing a consequence of society’s overbearing dominant relations in the surge of public shootings. Our systematic neglect of mental health (and common sense gun laws), and the role our social arrangements play in aggravating anxieties, may force trauma out through whatever backchannels available (so long as guns are readily available, they remain an open avenue for suppressed trauma).

Moreover, this neglect is dual-pronged. We’re neglecting both earnest treatment of mental afflictions and earnest appraisal of their causes (not unlike the current American medical system). Antidepressant SSRI’s do not heal, they numb. This might be why psychedelic therapy is undergoing such a renaissance (ignited by Michael Pollan’s latest book) with its unprecedented therapeutic, psychological, even spiritual benefits. We’re so entrenched in our ways of thinking that only total reboots — trips out of our usual minds — offer the requisite space for reconsidering our calcified habits, perspectives, and lives.

A sublime read

If psychedelic trips relieve past traumas, UBI might mitigate future formations. Participation in our affairs could become increasingly voluntary. We might enjoy greater choice and autonomy in everything from jobs to relationships.

But as things stand, our economic project of delivering to each citizen the ‘freedom to choose’ is failing. For a time, particularly in the mid 20th century, this wasn’t so. Now, we’re nursing a starved conception of freedom that no longer serves us. We’re clinging to ideologies that delivered us here, rather than adapting to new environments. Rousseau’s old indictment applies now more than ever:

“All ran headlong for their chains in the belief that they were securing their liberty.”

If social liberation is the target of economic ascent, its efficacy follows a similar arc as Google’s usage graph for the word:

We’ve slumped. Worse, many of us feel there’s no way out of our slumps. UBI, a safe-word to extricate ourselves from soul-deadening drudgery, could afford us the time, space, and vision to raise our sights and re-chart our course, both individually and collectively.

It’s tempting to imagine a UBI-driven renaissance in art, entrepreneurship, and community. But I doubt we could foresee all the ways in which implementing UBI might upend the economy, society, and life as we know it. The question then becomes: are we willing to find out? Or is the status quo — this starved conception of freedom — worth preserving?


Further Reading


If you jived with any of that, it was originally published on my website, www.MusingMind.org.

Thanks to Mission

Oshan Jarow

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Interested in many things, like consciousness, meditation & economics. Sure of nothing, like how to exist well, or play the sax (yet). More: www.MusingMind.org.

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