We are asking too much out of American women today. Society once deemed women’s most appropriate role to be in the domestic sphere. They were expected to be satisfied with a life of mothering, cooking, cleaning, etc.
That paradigm was clearly false and America moved past it to the point where women had not just legal egalitarianism, but also social acceptance to work in almost any field. Unfortunately, this expansion of rights came with an expansion of expectations.
Many women felt they were expected to “have it all”. This roughly translates to a successful career plus wifehood plus motherhood. And doing a bang-up job at all three. Many women found these hyperbolic expectations burdensome, like 30 Rock’s Liz Lemon.
Then people began to think “having it all” was unrealistic, possibly harmful, and actually somewhat undesirable. These people began to think that women should approach life like men: find your happiness and go after it. The specific checklist that qualified a woman as “having it all” (job, marriage, kids) began to feel overly formulaic and not necessarily right for everyone.
At the same time, some people went in the other direction. They began attacking every way in which women were perceived as different from men.
This viewpoint would have us believe that women are physically as strong as men, have no significant differences in sweat glands and bone density, do not undergo any neurological changes from giving birth, and so on. Of course, each of those points is demonstrably false.
This is an even more problematic version of the “having it all” meme. Women are not just expected to work three jobs (wife, mother, worker) and love it, they are now expected to overpower people who are physically stronger than them.
Every time a guy at the gym lifts more weight than her, a woman is reminded of how much she failed by not trying hard enough. Since men and women are physically the same, any more weight that guy lifts is just because he’s trying harder.
In fact, all the movies she’s watched recently had the female protagonist manhandling bigger men, so that weightlifting guy is probably at a natural disadvantage. This makes her feel like even more of a failure.
Every instance of a woman’s hormone’s affecting her mood during menstruation is internalized as a failure on her part, because women are no more emotional than men!
If she can’t cut weight as fast as her training patterns it’s perceived as her trying less hard, and not having less sweat glands.
These thought patterns are harmful to women. Distorting the truth to assuage PC unrest is causing real-world harm. These women would be much better served in a society that gave honest information about gender dysmorphia while still promoting egalitarianism and personal liberties.