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A poem of thoughts about current events

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The sun hides behind the low-hanging frosty fog
wondering if it will show up, glowing alive
while frightening the icy air into the background.
I wonder; pause to think.
Is our life much like waiting for the sun to shine? …


Anger is a biological, normal protective factor we often feel needs to vanish. Instead, use your anger to propel you toward greater change.

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Anger is a perfectly normal emotion and you could expect to feel some anger when you’ve been treated badly. The initial emotion isn’t the real issue. It’s the choices you make after the point which have the potential to be damaging.

If your temper frequently escalates, you might believe that…


The breath continues, and life ebbs

Pepper’s Last Day, 10.15.21 Photo courtesy of Pamela Nikodem

The phone calls came, awakened hope
With rising optimism, we planned tomorrow
Until the phone rang again.
Hopes dashed, tomorrow questioned, today gone.

Pepper didn’t get another day
to frolic in the yard, or bask in the sun
She sat momentarily in the grass
And then waddled back to the steps, unable to…


Peppermint, headed to the vet. Photo curtesy of Pamela Nikodem, 2021

The house feels oppressive, the phone silent.


Have you ever felt stuck in conversations or uncertain how to break through so you can communicate effectively with your partner? Here are some essential skills to get you moving in the best direction: Together.

Image by 👀 Mabel Amber, who will one day from Pixabay

Communication in relationships is the backbone of any bond. It doesn’t matter how good or bad your relationship may seem, if there aren’t strong enough communications between both parties then everything will crumble before long.

Healthy communication builds trust, which allows two people to open up more freely than they…


We might ask this question in a sarcastic tone, or one of genuine curiosity. I was asked, and now I know. Listen in as I share my ah-ha story.

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Have you ever sat there, and had someone ask you heartfelt questions, which helped you process something you didn’t even know you had as a problem? Those are the best and sometimes the scariest experiences. …


Some of us have great control over our emotional responses, and some of us struggle. Let’s look at how you can become one who is in control.

Image by Stefan Keller from Pixabay

We’ve seen them in the news or in the supermarket. The person who throws a fit because their line isn't moving fast enough, or the lady who attacked a McDonald’s employee when they didn’t have the food she wanted, or the man who drove recklessly, endangering his children when another…


How often have you stopped and enjoyed the moment in a day, a week, a month, or a year? Probably not as often as you think you did. Here’s what I gained from the moments of awareness.

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The moon, a brilliant yellow crescent hung in the sky, occasionally muted by misty clouds, paralleled a bright star. Both illuminated the darkened backdrop to the setting sun. The simple scenes like the one described are gifts we see every day, and sometimes, take for granted.

Each time I slow…


What happens when you step into your thoughts and see where it is you do your interrogation and introspection? Join me as I share my experience.

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I stood there, pondering as I looked upon myself. What a situation we have become, I quietly whisper to myself. I pulled myself together, and looked around.

Dark, dismal walls, cracked with age surrounded me. The only light entered through a framed window, opened to the sea. No curtains, not…


Have you every felt discouraged about life and followed a negative voice in your head? Me too, and this is what changed for me.

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One of the uncomfortable experiences in the world is to discover one’s failure to complete a goal, or be acknowledged for a project we worked so hard on and have zero acknowledgment. Like myself, I ran into hurdles when I thought about playing my violin. Physical, psychological, and tactical issues…

Pamela J. Nikodem, MSED

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