Be A Buddha In The Storm

“Just be still. What could be more simple than that?” — Sri Ramana Maharshi

So you’re out with your friends, and you meet a cute girl.

You’re laughing and having fun, when, all of a sudden, seemingly out of left-field, she says:

“So do you just go around chatting up every girl?”

Something shifts inside you…

You’re in defense mode now.

“uhm no, no its not like that… I uhm… Well you looked… I”

You stammer an answer but really it doesn’t matter, you can already feel that the vibe is dead and she is drifting away now.

You’re in the office and all of a sudden something goes wrong and it seems like you’re responsible.

Janice from accounting looks on nervously while your boss berates and humiliates you in front of everyone.

You try to explain yourself, you go on the defensive, you say something — anything! It wasn’t your fault! No, you are NOT a bad employee. What the hell? Why is everyone always on my back?

The Iron Buddha

“If you want to become whole, let yourself be broken. If you want to become straight, let yourself be crooked. If you want to become full, let yourself be empty. If you want to be reborn, let yourself die. If you want to be given everything, give everything up.” — Tao Te Ching

In my time creating the Centered Man Project, I understood something fundamental to inner strength…

Look, you only react if you are clinging to an idea, which is more often than not linked to your sense of self.

That’s the bottom line.

The reason you feel the need to defend yourself, is because you HAVE A SENSE OF SELF in the first place.

“But Pat, don’t you always talk about knowing who you are?!”

Yes — but that comes from knowing (and accepting) who you’re not!

The more layers and layers you build (“I’m macho, successful, handsome, cool, funny, look how many friends I have, I’m a real ladies man, I’ve slept with over X women…”) the thicker your defenses get.

But that doesn’t make you strong.

A stone thrown at glass shatters the glass. A stone thrown through smoke goes right through.

Point is: relax, let go of yourself, let go of your ideas and let your mind be at peace.

This is the essence of alchemy — transforming your greatest weaknesses into your biggest strength.

And you do that by surrendering to them.

You become invulnerable by letting yourself be completely vulnerable.

You take it — all of it, and you own it, without clinging to it, without holding onto it and without trying to deflect it, and you will feel it pass through you.

“There has to be faith which is not expressed in things to which you cling — in ideas, opinions — to which you cling in a kind of desperation. Faith is the act of letting go.” — Alan Watts

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