Why You Should Slay Your Gods
I have a confession to make…
I have no role models.
6 years on my journey and what the fuck do I have to show for it?
Awesome friends! Hell yeah, without a doubt.
But one of the most striking things about all of this is that I made a point to seek out and meet my ‘role models’ — the Gods of self-development and seduction who have been written about in books like the Game, been on TV, in magazines and even those that are whispered about in hush hush tones in the dark corners of the internet…
And you know what?
I don’t want to be like a single one of them.
I don’t want any of their lives.
I’ve seen the total lack of professionalism that is endemic to the self-improvement industry as a whole.
I’m talking about people ‘forgetting’ their podcast appointments… Showing up completely drunk to coach clients… Canceling on clients last minute because they were out drinking the night before… Just having poor hygiene and not changing their fucking shirts… Delivering shitty work and trying to pass it off as absolutely amazing… Falsifying their results like fake in field footage or just generally lying about their lives as if being good marketer means being a bullshit artist.
I actually had dinner with a VERY famous coach who was bragging and laughing about how he fucked up one of his intern’s life. True story.
Not to mention dating unattractive, low-class and overall low-quality women (I know I’ll get flak for this one).
Sure, you have to be kinda crazy to be in this industry, but I’ve noticed that some of my co-instructors think ‘living your passions’ means just being a complete slob, and ‘not having a boss’ means being unaccountable to anyone, including your sincere clients who NEED your help.
These aren’t ALL the instructors I’ve met in this industry. Most are actually great guys. Some have awesome girlfriends too! But I can name at most 3 that are truly impressive men. And not because they ‘pull mad bitches’ but because they are completely real. Because they know who they are.
And this leads me to the positive part…
See, not wanting to be like any of these guys is a DAMN good thing.
Because at the end of the day, this is YOUR life — nobody else’s.
I started meeting guys who are actually surprised that I’m humble in person… Or that I actually call to check on how theyre doing — even though they never bought coaching from me because they couldnt afford it… Or that I too get scared, feel down some days, doubt myself or freeze under pressure.
No one is cut from a different cloth… But everyone is unique.
Mystery Method is MYSTERY’s METHOD — not yours.
Richard Branson is uber successful because he does business ‘a la’ Richard Branson!
I’ve noticed that my entire life, as I was learning little tips and tricks and methods to compliment my life, there was a deep down drive to avoid having to design my own life.
It wasn’t until I sat down with myself and totally honestly asked myself ‘Who am I? What do I want my life to look like? What do I stand for? What does it mean to be a man? What do I truly want to say? What do I value?” that I began to live a more extraordinary existence…
That’s not to say that you have nothing to learn from anyone.
What I’m saying is that as long as you hold certain men to be on a pedestal, that you see them as above you and that they can do no wrong, your natural inclination will be to take on their mannerisms, their values and behaviours and ultimately, drift away from who you truly are.
If that isn’t the definition of inauthenticity I don’t know what is.
That is why you must slay your Gods.
Hold no man above you (and no man below).
Seek your own truth, whatever that might be.
Is having a hot girl on your arm, a big bank account and a cushy job the epitome of achievement?
Or is it giving away all of your possessions and spending years of your life living in simplicity while helping others?
That’s not for me to answer, or even to judge your answer. It’s for you to find out.
Are your values your own, or those of society around you?
Your entire life journey is to answer that question…
All I know is, I made a commitment that next time I ran into my former role models, Gurus and Gods, I would meet them as an equal…
I decided that I would walk amongst giants or die trying.
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Give. Love. Serve.