How NOT to decide to have a kid

Just do it. Try it out and see if you like it. Fail fast.

These seem to make sense. They feel right to me, but I’ve never truly comprehended the underlying reasoning. And like a lot of people, as long as I don’t fully understand it it’s harder for me to assimilate it, and use it to alter my own behavior.

Let’s try.

I believe time can be categorized.

  • Measurable time
  • Unmeasurable time

Not the catchiest of categories. I thought about calling them “Physical time” and “Brain time” but it wasn’t really accurate.

After second thoughts I’ll choose catchy over accurate.

I believe time can be categorized.

  • Physical time
  • Brain time

Physical time is the easiest to measure, it’s the actual time you spend on something. It’s not physical per say. It can be thinking time, eg weighing the pros and cons of writing articles, for 10 minutes.

Brain time is the time we don’t measure. The kind where your brain has very little control over your brain.

It’s not unmeasurable in the strictest of senses. Time is an unit of measure after all. But your brain will have a hard time accounting for this kind thoughts.

From time to time the thought of “should I write articles or not” would pop up, often disrupting my thoughts on the task at hand, or snapping me out of the enjoyment of watching the latest Game of Thrones episode, or would come up in my tired brain before sleep. It adds up.

It would create a very (very) mild feeling of anxiety. The anxiety always felt when a decision has to be made.

This brain time is usually not accounted for. It is spent re-re-re-examining the same set of data you already had at your disposal after your first brainstorm of the subject. You already know the pros and cons.

You don’t think anymore, you worry.

This leads to a mismanagement of your time and energy, in multiple ways.

  • Brain juggling

Even the smartest people can juggle with a limited number of preoccupation at a time, it clouds the brain, creates anxiety and makes you have 87 items in your to-think-about list.

  • Data acquisition

If I have trouble making a decision it’s not by it bickering my brain at frequent intervals that I will get any sort of answer. But for some reason that’s the reasoning we go with : suddenly, if we keep delaying it, the decision will be made obvious.

All this brain time would have been better off transferred into physical time collecting data to take the best decision.

In this precise case, write 3 articles and see how it goes. Once this is done I’ll have a much better idea if I should continue or stop.

It’s all about spending the time collecting new data rather than constantly re-assessing the previously collected one.

I’d say that this quick data acquisition strategy is not suited for all decisions. In particular the committing decisions.

Like having a kid. You can’t just, try it out and give up midway.