You, Me And Everybody Is A Hypocrite About This NFL Domestic Violence Situation

Did you hear about that man in Baltimore who beat his wife over the summer? He was a retired Baltimore Police Lt. Col. Dan Lioi who struck his wife in the face with a clenched fist.

Well you must of heard about the guy in Arizona who was arrested and charged with domestic violence? The Flagstaff man kidnapped, beat and raped his ex-girlfriend. You didn’t hear about that one either? Oh that’s right those two wretched men were not famous athletes so the media doesn’t give it national attention.

Studies show that approximately 42.4 million women in the United States have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime. Wow that means that the 1,696 NFL players are doing a shitload of smacking women around. At least that is what the media would like to have you believe because that’s currently the viral theme that has been thrust into the national spotlight.

Where was the outrage in April when Minnesota Timberwolves forward Dante Cunningham was arrested on suspicion of domestic assault? Domestic violence wasn’t on the media’s forefront at that point, so there was no fury from news outlets or the public.

What about baseball players? They smack their bitches up. Chuck Knoblauch bashed his wife’s head into a wall, hit her in the face and threw a humidifier at her. For Knoblauch, this isn’t his first time at the beat my wife rodeo, he was convicted of hitting his then wife Stacey Stelmach in 2010. Former MLB prospect turned Japanese home run king Wladimir Balentien, is facing felony false imprisonment charge and a misdemeanor battery charge against his wife. But it was not covered with the same exhausting fervor in the way that the Ray Rice crime was. did a thorough comparison of NFL players and the general population and discovered that the arrest rates of NFL players are far less than that of the average 25-to-29 age group.

To be very honest, I really thought NFL players would have a much higher rate of violent crimes the way the media makes them out to be and considering the way they are groomed to be killers on the gridiron, much like pit bulls were bred to be vicious monsters. Constantly these warriors are told to destroy, maim and murder their opposition and play on pure emotion and anger. Studies show that 1 in 3 women have experienced physical violence by an intimate partner, which means that not only football players, but a lot of different men from various backgrounds are hitting women.

David Chase, the Vice President of D.F. Chase, was arrested on domestic violence twice in two days. D.F. Chase is one of the largest construction firms in Tennessee. According to an affidavit, Chase was taken into custody after he reportedly assaulted his girlfriend in their home.

Can you believe they allowed radio host Tom Martino to return to the airwaves after punching his wife in the face which caused a bloody nose while driving in a car?

Do you think actor Jamal Woolard should be allowed to earn a living in Hollywood after he was arrested for battery, cruelty to children and simple assault after a child called 911 and told the operator, “Dad hit Mom!

Even the the son of legendary Denver Broncos quarterback John Elway has issues; Jack Elway, was arrested after pushing a 23-year-old woman out of a moving car and into an intersection.

However one may argue that NFL players are role models and should be held to a higher standard, and to that I retort, police officers could be a top choice for a child to have as a role model. Police officers beat women, much more then I’d like to report.

Daniel Diaz Deleon, 42-year-old detective from Denver, was arrested for harassment, obstructing a peace officer, resisting arrest, domestic violence, child abuse, criminal mischief, false imprisonment, reckless endangerment and prohibited use of weapons.

New Orleans Police Department officer Robert Hurst was arrested for attempted murder related to domestic abuse and reckless driving and hit-and-run charges. Those charges were later dropped, but this was the third incident involving domestic abuse-related charges involving a member of the NOPD.

Can you believe that they haven’t banned Tuscaloosa police officer Robert Fourt after his second domestic violence arrest since 2012? He was only suspended 10 days! In the first offense he shot bullets through doors, wrecked the house and threatened to kill his wife. He’ll probably learn his lesson this time though because he was placed on administrative leave by the police department.

Then people quickly attacked and questioned Jannay Rice for her staying and marrying her assailant Ray Rice. However no outlet talked about how many abused women stay with their attacker because the abuser tends to threaten the victim with physical harm if they try to leave. Stats show that women who leave their assailants are at a 75% greater risk of being killed by the abuser than those who stay.

Nobody questioned Tanya Lorenzo, who was beaten up by her husband and seven-year San Diego police department veteran Gilbert Lorenzo, who was arrested for domestic violence.

He is not a wife beater and nobody has the right to bash him! No one was with us during the incident and no one knows what happened behind closed doors besides us and god.”

The media has their proverbial dick in their hand salivating that an NFL player gets into dispute with a wife or a baby mama that ends with the woman getting her cranium bashed in. The media doesn’t care about the welfare of the women, but are quick to attack the National Football League for it’s two game suspension to Ray Rice. Meanwhile sponsors are suddenly pretending that they truly care about domestic violence, but truly care about the image of their brand and losing potential consumers.


Domestic violence is completely unacceptable. We are encouraged to see the NFL is now treating this with the seriousness it deserves.


We are disappointed and increasingly concerned by the recent incidents that have overshadowed this NFL season. We are not yet satisfied with the league’s handling of behaviors that so clearly go against our own company culture and moral code. We have shared our concerns and expectations with the league.

Tough talk, but both companies are still in bed with the NFL. The only company to stand behind their words has been Radisson Hotels who ended its limited sponsorship deal with the Minnesota Vikings after their mishandling of the Adrian Peterson child abuse situation. If these companies were sponsors of the National Badminton League and one of their players bashed their wife with a racquet do you think that these companies would just issue a statement? No, they’d quickly remove all ties with the league. However the NFL gets the most eyeballs and absolutely crushes everything else on television as you can see by this chart of the top TV programs of 2013, so it doesn’t pay for them to actually do anything about the domestic violence issue because no other forum can provide the extensive exposure that the NFL can.

So we have all sat in our ivory towers and shouted down at NFL for the perceived domestic violence epidemic, but the epidemic is in our neighborhoods. We’ve all declared how horrible domestic violence is. We spent hours calling sports talk shows to condemn these athletes. We’ve crafted 140 characters of vitriol towards the NFL and Ray Rice. But how much effort have we put into attempting to help prevent this disgusting trend that is far more widespread than we acknowledge? Why have we not demanded other companies into not associating with serial domestic violent criminals? Why is it that the general public needs the media to sensationalize these few incidents for awareness on a vile subject to spark mass indignation? Why have we not brought more attention to the brutalization of our mothers, sisters and daughters? I truly believe that in the end this will be beneficial because it brings awareness, well at least until next week when we’re bored with the topic and we’ll forget all about all of these violated victims because we’re consumed with a viral cat video. Sadly we are a very visual society, and for the most part there was no true shock when people saw the first Ray Rice video of him dragging his unconscious wife out of an elevator despite knowing exactly what happened in that elevator, we had to have our eyes peeled open like Malcolm McDowell in Clockwork Orange and be pummeled with violent and flabbergasting imagery of the heinous video of him cold-cocking his future wife to warrant anger and disgust. Why as a population can we not be outraged every time a woman is mauled, no matter if they are the wife or girlfriend of a sports star, a politician, a police officer or a plumber?

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