17 Ways to Make Language Learning Miserable and Ruin Your Progress

Frustration and demotivation are just around the corner

4 min readJul 25, 2023

Learning a new language can be an exciting and rewarding endeavor, opening doors to new cultures, people, and perspectives. However, it can also be challenging and frustrating at times.

If your goal is to make the language learning process as miserable as possible, then you’ve come to the right place!

Here are some tried and true ways to transform this enriching experience into a miserable slog:

1. Avoid Immersion at All Costs

Immersing yourself in the language is one of the most effective ways to learn, since you are completely surrounded by native speakers using the language authentically.

Make sure you never expose yourself to real-world conversations, media, books, or anything else in your target language. Just stick to textbook dialogues and grammar exercises.

Without any cultural or social context, you’ll have a much harder time making sense of the language in a meaningful way.

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2. Study Endless Lists of Vocabulary

Rather than acquiring vocabulary naturally through reading, listening, and conversing, make sure you memorize enormous lists of words completely out of context.

Also, many of the words will be ones you rarely (if ever) encounter in actual usage. This approach is guaranteed to suck the joy and relevance out of learning new vocabulary.

3. Obsess Over Minor Details

Perfect pronunciation, spelling, and grammar should be your top priority from day one. Get bogged down in the nitpicky details of how words are constructed and pronounced while ignoring the big picture of how the language actually works.

Cave to the temptation to endlessly polish and tweak your sentences to avoid any possible errors. This excessive perfectionism will inhibit you from ever developing flow and confidence.

4. Study Alone

Interacting with other learners is a great way to get helpful feedback and motivation. Make sure you avoid this at all costs! Lock yourself away with textbooks and workbooks as your only companions.

Without any native speakers to converse with, you’ll lose touch with how real people actually talk. Your language will remain technical and stilted.

5. Make Unrealistic Expectations

Assume you’ll be fluent within a few months. When inevitable frustration sets in, conclude you must not have an aptitude for languages and give up altogether.

Unreasonable expectations set you up for failure and prevent you from appreciating real progress.

6. Compare Yourself to Others

Keep reminding yourself how much faster other people seem to pick up languages. Hold yourself to unrealistic standards of perfection.

Let jealousy and discouragement cloud your judgment of your own abilities and progress. This sense of constantly falling short will really help extinguish any motivation.

7. Make It a Chore

Rather than integrating language learning into your daily life, treat it like an extra assignment that eats into your free time. See it as a box you need to check off rather than a rewarding hobby.

Let boredom and drudgery strip away any joy or passion. Soon you’ll start questioning why you ever wanted to learn in the first place.

8. Forget Your Motivation

Avoid reminders of why learning this language matters to you or how it aligns with your interests and goals. Let the difficulty overshadow your original excitement and inspiration.

Stay focused on how hard and tedious language learning can be rather than the doors it can open for you.

9. Give Up at the First Frustration

When you inevitably hit a plateau or setback, immediately conclude this language is too hard and give up for good.

Rather than adapting your approach and pushing through the challenge, let one hurdle completely derail your progress. This will ensure you quit well before you reach fluency.

10. Isolate Yourself

Don’t engage with any local culture groups, language meetups, or conversations partners. Deprive yourself of the social rewards of learning and chances to get helpful feedback.

Without a community of fellow learners and native speakers, you’ll lose crucial opportunities to improve.

11. Avoid the Culture

Stick to textbook dialogues and grammar exercises without engaging with books, films, music, or anything else authentically from the culture.

This will prevent you from building meaningful connections between the language and the people who speak it. The language will remain abstract and detached.

12. Dwell on Mistakes

Let every minor grammatical error or difficult conversation send you into a shame spiral. Rather than viewing mistakes as an essential part of the learning process, let them shred your confidence.

This sense of constant failure will paralyze you from engaging further.

13. Impose Unnecessary Stress

Keep reminding yourself how high the stakes are, and how behind you are compared to an imaginary timeline. Worry frequently about all the worst case scenarios.

Let this excessive stress and anxiety sabotage your focus and memory. Soon language learning will feel like an impossible uphill battle.

14. Multitask While Studying

Always attempt to study while distracted by other tasks, emails, notifications, or thoughts. Let your mind constantly wander rather than devoting full attention.

Juggling language learning with other priorities will ensure you retain little and stay stuck at a beginner level.

15. Give Up Easily

At the first sign of difficulty, conclude that you lack talent for languages and will never improve. Assume challenges are a sign of permanent failure rather than something to work through.

Let temporary frustration override years of potential progress. Defeatism is the fast track to misery.

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If you follow even a few of these counterproductive strategies, you can transform an enriching experience into an exercise in frustration.

With the right attitude and techniques, however, language learning can be a fun adventure.