I hardly dare to critique, since this essay is about personal struggle more than anything. I can understand sounding off about people who aggressively push alcohol, not offering virgin options, or how perhaps we drink too much as a society. But this goes too far, gets too preachy. There are plenty of women who are feminists who can enjoy a wine tasting. Or hold one cocktail all night and enjoy the socialization of ‘girl time’. Or even maybe, have one two many once in blue moon at an event and don’t spiral down into hell for it. I’m sorry you can’t, but spare me from the patronizing tone that anyone who enjoys a drink must be out of control or self-medicating from the patriarchy.
Lots of people are able to go for a dip in the pool and not drown in it.