We all have sex work to do.
We all have sex work to do.
Some of the hardest conversations people have are about sex and relationships. These conversation are usually very binary: right and wrong; moral and immoral, etc. Even simply being gay is still a huge debate in most of the world. As a result, gay people live segregated in their own subculture. Why is this still a thing, and what does it say about us? Why do we give a fuck? More specifically, how does this affect the world of dating?
We have a relationship problem
In addition, people are very busy and looking for time optimization strategies. At Ohlala we tackle both of these problems and that is why our dates are like no other. We separate people’s time from their expectations: every date starts with a person making a financial offer for another person’s time. If a person accepts, there is no rejection nor choice anxiety to deal with because expectations were set from the start. Both parties are also aware that the financial transaction took place to buy the peace of mind of not having such stress. User are also aware that their conversation is privately kept under a layer of encryption.
What Ohlala is
- About staking an investment in a date.
- A tool that facilitates connections.
- A mobile-optimized website where users get instant online dates and where intentions are crystal clear.
- A real token economy already in use by nearly 100 thousand people.
- A mobile-optimized website that sits between online dating apps and escort apps.
- The redefinition of societal perceptions of paid dating as something one can engage in without stigma.
Some use cases
Mara is a Scandinavian 27 year old single mother living in Berlin. She has 3 jobs and has little time to spare. She uses a scheduling app to manage her daily routine. Dating is frustrating for her: it is hard to determine a person’s intentions and reliability and the number of requests is overwhelming. She wants to optimize her time and find herself a stress-free dream date.
Michael is a man on a mission: he wants to finally get that elusive threesome checked off his bucket list. On top of it, he wants the girls to role play a bit. He goes to Ohala and gets his dream on.
Miranda is an artist, dancer and a cosplayer living in London. She values her time and does not want to waste any seeking someone that is both attracted to and has interest in specific types of role play. She places a date request with detailed specifics and gets to have her fun.
Marcela is a shy expat from eastern Europe living in Vienna. She has a history of settling for men she is not really attracted to. With so much to choose from it is simply too convenient to get to choose from the available cohort of pursuers. This leads to her getting entangled in short term relationships that otherwise would not happen. She wants to bypass all of this and go straight to her dream man even if it is for a night. She does not want something serious anyway.
Out of my league
Joana is a Peruvian business consultant working for a top level firm in Zurich. She is an attractive woman that always wanted to have a boy toy for a night: that impossibly attractive man that has the face of an angel and the body of a titan.
What Ohlala can be
We will replace cash with tokens and a hand shake with a smart contract that guarantees consent electronically.
We have been busy at Ohlala investigating the current state of dating. Since we function as a large scale mutual consent experiment we have access to truly unique and invaluable insights. With users setting expectations prior to encounters, the vast majority report sensations of emotional safety and positive feelings akin to being emancipated from expectation. We have facilitated over 300 thousand such heartwarming stories.
We come from a very traditional and honest Germany. Yet, in the rest of the world, the picture is very different: dishonest behavior is tolerated and seen as "part of the game", prejudice is praised and entire social ecosystems are pushed to the edge.
We want to lead a push for reform in the world of dating. We can do this, we have the tools and the knowledge. With the right resources, we can grow by a couple orders of magnitude. We have been building the case to justify this growth. We started by asking people some questions:
- What is the current state of dating?
- What are good relationships and how do these make us happier?
- How the hell can a paid dating website take a position of leadership in this?
- How can technology help?
- Why should we care?
- Why are people going into sex work more than ever?
- Is modern dating “toxic”?
- What are some concepts about the human condition that we need to investigate?
We asked experts and experienced adults in multiple related fields; people from all genders and age groups, well distributed in the political spectrum. We talked to sex workers, relationship scientists, anthropologists, sex education advocates, teachers, revolutionaries, activists, psychologists and so on. What is the ultimate expression of sexual freedom? Answers were almost always descriptions of the various abstractions of freedom: freedom of choice, freedom of speech, freedom of thought. The lack of such freedoms, in the context of our sex lives, typically comes about when stigma enters the picture. And here lies the problem.
We have to stop pretending to accept the stigmatized. We can take a leap as significant and impactful as the abolishment of slavery. We have to work on eliminating stigma. But how do we go beyond just some more studies?
Stigma: the root causes
It is the stance of many that, if we find ways to curb the power that stigma has in society, we are better off. It is more than a silly preoccupation or a communication breakdown: it is sand on society’s gears and it is preventing us from having true forward momentum. It slows us down.
We reckon that the stigma problem is threefold:
- Love is seen as a contract and people as evaluable assets.
- Sex work has a massive branding problem.
- Modern online dating incentivizes dishonesty.
Root cause № 1: There shouldn’t be easy miles and hard miles.
Modern relationships are ownership propositions. These are more about addiction than empathy. In this context, people see each other as assets with a street price and even trading value. Of the many measurements of a person’s worth to another, one that brings out much reason for contempt and stigma is what a person has done with his or her own body. In used car terms: there are easy highway miles and hard dirt road miles and the price changes depending on the road taken. I have heard countless stories of men and women breaking off long term relationships because they learned of their partner’s less than stellar sexual past.
It is clear to us at Ohlala that, if we are to open up, we need to curb our tendency to evaluate others and with it the inevitable placement of expectations and uncalled for disappointment. A practical approach to this could be establishing a dating network that functions as an agent of change by design:
- A system that gently nudges people to honestly depict themselves (from their pictures, video clips, clearly defined intentions, so on)
- A system that suggests more practical notions of romantic love as well as some useful alternatives that promote the construction of healthy relationships (and families).
Root cause № 2: We need to legitimize sex work
Making sex work legitimate is more than turning people into good tax paying citizens. People that walk that world wade in prejudice. From exotic dancers to dominatrices, I have heard of countless stories of this “dark underworld” and how dangerous it is. In other words, the public perception is not an exaggeration: crime, drug abuse, assault and forced labor are too prevalent and, as a result, it makes it impossible for the ecosystem to rise above negative perceptions.
The reason why this is important is that the consequences of our views on people in fringe groups trickle down to everyone’s lives.
“It is the same in prison systems around the world: we brand our felons the minute the gavel’s sound reverberates across the courtroom and they are forever seen as second class citizens. Certainly, appalling recidivism rates result from this.”
Here is an example of the trickle down effect: If we are all ok with branding certain behaviour as “something a whore would do”, then who are we to say anything when someone decides to label us that way? If the category exists, then it is there for any of us to place some people under it. It is, thus, imperative that we attempt to eliminate the problem altogether. Here are some ways that Ohlala will make it happen:
- We plan to eliminate transaction, reputation and consent anxiety. In other words, all parties involved have to operate in an online dating marketplace where transactions are guaranteed, reputation systems are valuable and mutual consent (and its legal protections) is guaranteed. This is possible with current microtransaction, cryptography and decentralized ledger technologies.
- We will unite the world of sex work and help it rebrand itself. This starts with the adoption of a self empathetic point of view. In practice, people in the industry could even be required to attempt “emotional emancipation” classes and learn ways to promote and protect their class. Another component of this strategy is to make it their duty to inform every new client of the expected civil way of interaction. Another will be to form bands of ambassadors to speak on their behalf so the common narrative can take a sharp turn. For example, we must eliminate the word “whore” or “hooker” or “escort” the same way we frown upon saying “faggot”. This does not mean that we will be an app that promotes certain behaviors in countries where it is illegal to do so; this is exclusively about educating the population at large.
Root cause № 3: most live dishonest dating lives
Dating dishonesty is rampant. Meticulously fabricated online personas are now normal and in some places expected. Ohlala’s dating revolution will take a critical look into these platforms and how this level of dishonesty is, for all intents and purposes, the application of outdated societal concepts which result in a world of hurt just so people get a chance to get some (with science suggesting that apps aren’t helping either).
It was not always this way. 10 years ago, by simply resorting to online dating a person was seen as taking a shortcut. It was a place for the losers and other undesirables. In those days, “the strong” either found ways of connecting with people in the real world or at least connected via Facebook (or Myspace). This was a world pre-Instagram too: not many people stamped out their facial imperfections.
Another important factor is the actor initiating the contact. In most cultures, men take on this role which results in the following:
- The party initiating contact is much more likely to fear rejection and want to try to avoid it at all costs. The result is males trying to manipulate situations to favor a positive outcome regardless of their counterparty’s emotional well being. It also means that men try “carpet bombing tactics”, swiping right at random.
- On the women side of things, similarly dishonest behavior occurs: even if they want a simple sexual encounter, they feel anxious for having too much to choose from. They ask themselves “what if this is the wrong choice?” Even worse, it is difficult to know the true intentions of her matches. Women also feel like they will be abandoned by their peers if any “out of the norm” behavior is confirmed or suspected. The “whore” thing is all too real.
- Both men and women end up feeling anxious about whether or not the right choice was made. Studies even suggest users of certain apps have lower self-esteem than average and people report feeling dissatisfied and that there is a better opportunity a swipe away. The latter even has a name: cushioning.
The causes for this behavior are multifold. Here are some examples:
- Platforms promote notions of romantic love that set Holywood levels of expectations of what love is and how people should behave in such arrangements. These are much the result of data driven strategies and qualitative research.
- Swipe features, while convenient, take the fear of rejection to a whole new level. A man swiping right is screaming “please give it to me”. A woman swiping left is screaming: how can I make an informed choice?
- External societal factors have a significant impact in people’s perceptions and behavior in online systems. There is an obsession with physical parameters, distorted standards of attractiveness (instead of personal notions of attractiveness) and prejudiced views on what proper behavior is for different genders just to cite a few examples.
This results in, for example:
- Men being likely to lie about their true intentions.
- Women being more likely to obscure their desire for simple sexual contact.
- Loneliness and depression are being linked to systems that promote “sexual inequality”.
Sex work is crucial
It is clear to us at Ohlala that one of the most important components of human well being, freedom of sexual self expression, carries with itself a needlessly heavy burden. It is too easy for us measure a person’s worth based on silly data points, such as favorite sexual acts. In fact, it is a “social crime” to talk about some of these, let alone letting go.
As such, by allowing sex to work in its mysterious ways, we would gain independence from it. It would be, and it should, something as simple to talk about as meditation, eating healthy or going for a run. At the moment it is not as a profoundly effective gift of nature as it could be. We have to work on it together if we are to conquer this.
The Dating Education Foundation
The dating reform requires that we replace our conversations with better ones. It also requires that we think of the practical deployment of strategies with the evolution of human sexuality at its heart and adapted to different social contexts.
We are proud to have started a movement. We have developed a profound respect for the human condition as insiders which allows us to dream big instead of just dragging along the heavy burden of prejudice. Ohlala’s ICO is the first step taken by our executive branch in order to offer said practical strategies to a wider audience.
The ICO’s main objective is creation of the Dating Education Foundation. Its goal is to take our paid dating revolution worldwide albeit with a renewed sense of purpose which is driven by data and our desire to maximize human well being. In a nutshell, we will:
- Set new principles and build a new world of dating on top of them. These principles force us to rethink our notions of love and why the current system breaks us all.
- Make sex a natural topic of conversation just as food, exercise and work are.
An entirely new way of dating
The 2 targets above is our revolution, which will be supported by a new found understanding of human sexuality and its relationship to prejudice and how this is created by all of us.
Guaranteed financial transactions
People pay sex workers in cash, up-front, although there are exceptions. The moment cash is changing hands 2 things happen: stigma is telling the payer “I should not really pay for this because it is the wrong thing to do” and, because expectations may not have been terrifically well managed, disappointment could lead to disagreement on the value of the experience.
In order to change this we must move to the world of electronic wallets. Some are already doing it but there are still agencies involved and there are few legal tools holding either party responsible for the fulfillment of their contractual obligations. Moreover, it is important to guarantee that the transaction is private while still having room for legal recourse. Until we eliminate stigma, this privacy is essential.
Here is how it would work:
- An experience is requested and a price is set.
- A “disposable token” is generated for this specific transaction.
- A payment request is made by the system. Tokens are held in escrow.
- Experience is completed.
- A payment completion is requested by payee and confirmed by payer.
- If the payment is disputed, then arbitration takes place.
- The transaction logs are removed from Ohlala’s DLT, but stay on people’s phones if they wish.
The objectives of the above is to suggest the parties involved to take responsibility for their end of the deal. They have to take a hard look at what they have promised and work to deliver. Too often people purchasing such experiences behave badly while people selling services lie and threaten. Most of us don’t do this when we go get a manicure, but get sex involved and all sorts of bad stuff are more likely to happen. Fixing this will be the result of a system that helps user take ownership of themselves and their role in it.
Improved reputation/karma systems
One of the greatest changes to person to person commerce today is the feedback and reputation loop we see on sites from eBay to Twitter. People’s reputation, if they choose to partake in the activity, can be a significant deciding factor in people’s decision making within the system. This means that, a person’s history of positive behavior can be used as a signal that the person is generally considered safe. A great reputation is key to dealing with the best counter parties and generating trust. Reputation can encompass many other aspects than purely “safety”:
- To signal if a user has a high likelihood of paying.
- To signal their “fantasies” to others and get confirmation of their abilities by their peers.
- Confirmation of intention.
This will happen with a second token that effectively is a points and weight system. It would have the following characteristics:
- It is separate from the main financial exchange token.
- It can be made entirely or partially private by users.
- It can — ideally — be carried over to any other systems. This privately build account of a person’s “reputable” behavior can be used by systems that find this data reliable.
One thing this is not: a kinkiness rating or a monitoring system. It is not measured in numbers either. It works in the background and it flags users that do not meet certain criteria. If a user decides to be rated for something they are free to request and publish it.
Modern cryptography permits the gathering of information about an individual and their wishes and abilities whilst preserving the identity of all parties involved, from the community and even from Ohlala itself.
Consent, which in the world of sex work is a verbal agreement with few legal protections, can automatically become a legal contract with all consenting adults electronically signing it just by clicking “agree”. This will be done entirely automatically. The system detects the user’s intentions with language recognition software and it prepares a smart contract accordingly.
Here is how this would go down:
- User creates a date request.
- Request is accepted.
- A private chat ensues in which user describes their desires. Data does not stay on Ohlala’s servers.
- The user providing services confirm intent to comply.
- Risk profile analysis is performed:
- Identity protection
- Fraud detection
- Smart contract is electronically drafted with agreed upon hypotheticals and allotted times listed.
- Users may be able to access any of their contracts at any time. User may choose to keep contracts exclusively in their phones.
- Disagreements can go to arbitration, with evidence of the nature of the request available to arbiter.
Workers will pay their taxes
The global sex trade is enormous and government takes zero tax dollars from it. Bureaucrats want to legitimize the system in all but hilarious ways and are yet to see some success.
Ohlala wants to take the legitimacy of this trade to an entirely new level with decentralized ledger technology, especially with governments that should know better making things worse. A to be defined portion all of the transactions would automatically go to the government’s coffers without the necessity of disclosure. In other words, people won’t need to register as sex workers to get the privilege to be a tax paying citizen.
- Government funds are held in escrow and invested.
- Transactions follow the country’s tax code.
- In some countries, we need to build awareness and destigmatize paid dates before it is even possible to pay taxes. Here, we take some of the fee and use it to contribute to building awareness, lobbying and changing the law such that consensual paid dating becomes a legitimate activity. Our goal is that all people enabling paid dates, worldwide are part of the mainstream social system.
Workers will be able to retire
People don’t get a chance to invest much of it either: too often a lot is lost in lifestyle purchases — or worse — kept by silent partners.
When it comes to social security it is another matter. People should not have to resort to charity because of state sponsored prejudice. We need to lobby for a proper government sponsored retirement fund for the industry worldwide. With workers already taking advantage of crypto markets, it makes sense to run a crypto private retirement fund that would function like the funds of police and fire departments albeit with bots making crypto investments. Here is how is could go down:
- We would create the “World Sex Work Retirement Fund”.
- Sex workers from anywhere can choose to put a bit of their earnings into their own savings account.
- People from less privileged societies shall get special rates to compensate for low HDI. I other words, we should be able to get a person living in Sub Saharan Africa to enjoy a quality retirement at least from a financial perspective.
- Trading bots automatically create wealth with the assistance of experts.
- Users can cash out their investment at any time and set up rules for managing it if they choose to.
A new dating ethos
Dating would be much easier if we can be more honest about our intentions. Ohlala is already neutral and physical attribute agnostic: it does not force notions of romantic love or other specific expectations nor it gets users to define themselves as the answer of an eternal questionnaire.
There is room for good old romantic monogamy in the world. Just expect less.
Ohlala also promotes radical honesty by nudging users to portray their truest selves and not to stress over superficial representations like oversexualization or needless nudity. I am not saying a user cannot show their nipples and it is not our job to censor behavior; I am saying that Ohlala is not the place for gratuitous pornography and online masturbation. We are about meeting in real life and creating exciting experiences that free us.
The new dating ethos is all about freedom and here is how we plan to achieve it:
- We need confirmation of intention. If a user has been honest in the past, they could use choose to broadcast this data and help consenting parties make well informed choices.
- We need more ways of demonstrate our true selves. We believe that profiles images should be videos because these make it easier for people to share a satisfying level of emotional and physical intimacy. It includes facial expressions and tone of voice which are potent factors.
“With so much stigma still attached to so many things in the sexual desire spectrum and with these behaviors being able to be fulfilled by just a fraction of people willing to get paid for them, no wonder our society is perpetually stuck in this cycle.”
A new dating scene where everyone is welcome
The full spectrum of “adult sex positive activity” shall exist in our platform. This means that in a world where we accept people as they are, it should be possible for a person to find the love of their lives or pay for a kinky night with a couple of wild cosplaying twins, all from the same platform.
Here is what I see happening:
- Get to assemble in local chapters and organize in solid political structures as to have a stronger voice.
- Learn a new “sex work positive” branding and design language. This is not about making it look luxurious, which won’t help: it is about making it normal. It is about workers coming out as what they already are: really sexy therapists. It is also about them taking responsibility of their role as educators.
- May participate in sex worker retirement funds in cities with the demand.
Kink, fetish & fantasies.
- People with various fetishes get to find each other in a safer environment with less room for failed expectations.
- Kinky people can rate each other if they chose to and “advertise” how awesome they are in particular things they enjoy doing.
- Users may get suggestions (match making) and auto introductions from our system.
“The attendant at the station I get my fuel gas tank topped up was on the phone when I was waiting in line. She hung up the phone on pranksters that were saying how much they fantasized raping her. “
Any person that want to go out on dates for any purpose, including long term monogamy.
- Men and women alike should be able to initiate contact without fearing reprisal. Ohlala’s system will also be designed to limit the success of “copy and paste” mass date requests.
- No false expectations. People should be able to admit to their desires and act on them as they please under no false premises.
- Ohlala introductions: Similar to a business pitch, people can buy the opportunity to present their best selves without being crippled by fear. Men and women will be able to get a chance to go out with someone they would ordinarily be afraid to ask out by simply offering a cash payment or an equivalent donation to their charity of choice. Donate to get laid sounds fun to me and our research suggests there is a significant market for this.
The idea, of course, is not only get people to experience an entire world of sex positivity and possibilities but also get exposed to the concept of exploring something new. If there is one thing I have learned from Couchsurfing is how it promotes empathy.
The Ohlala Foundation
The Dating Education Foundation will have three main acting arms.
- The Sex Education Foundation
- The Dating Education Foundation
- The Future Family foundation
The plan establishes these and their respective operational directives. It also allows those with credentials to form local chapters and run their own shops much like a church is able to operate independently. Once these reach a certain standard, they could be eligible to receive tokens and officially promote healthy human relationships according to their regional context.
The Sex Education Foundation
The idea is to create a world where people with a lot of experience on a subject get to share their knowledge instead of being stigmatized for being good at something. In other words, if a person has had sex with thousands of people, they have some seriously good tips for us average folks.
We envision a world with bored couples getting tips from professionals sex workers and sex workers get child raising tips in return. Here are some more things we can do:
- Invest millions in global sex work conferences called the “World Sex Work Forum”. Perhaps we should nickname it the “WTF Conference”.
- Create an army of Ohlala ambassadors who will promote our vision and educate people.
- Reshape the sex work ecosystem (with their direct involvement) into something way healthier and free from the unintended consequences of stigma.
“If you want to concentrate, you got to masturbate.”
The Dating Education Foundation
Dating needs continuous reform and the aimed purpose of the Dating Education Foundation is to enable better intimate relationships from the first date to a life of retirement with their significant other(s). It will look at Ohlala’s history of proven positive change and help promote them in societies that take a bit longer to catch up. Some of the things our foundation will do:
- Promote healthier sex lives.
- Promote healthier relationships.
- Help people get to date who they want.
- Emancipate people from perceptions that do not maximize human well being.
- Fund a research program that focuses on the future of dating.
“I have slept with hundreds of men and I have never felt like I was not in a position of power. This is the result of my ability to enter healthy sexual agreements with people I meet where both parties get their desires fulfilled.”
The Future Family Foundation
The family has been changing and the days large extended families are long gone for most of us. Not only countries are struggling with keeping their populations stable: we expect people to move out of home as soon as they wake up from their 18th year birthday party hangover. We also can move anywhere we want, and a lot of us do.
Thus, a combination of factors makes people be less likely to want to have children and the good old safety of the large extended family is gone. This also makes raising children much more difficult: no siblings to help, grandparents living far away and no weekend visits to extended family members.
Moreover, gay men complain that it is easy to get laid but hard to find relationships (the opposite being true for heterosexuals). They want to form families but it is somehow difficult to do. In fact, talk about some dam strong people: it is one thing to be reject by women or by friends and it is another thing when the whole societies cast you as a monster.
We want people to live happier lives and we believe the family is an important factor in this. With families changing so fast, what can we do to help people get to live wholesome family lives? Even better, is it possible to live such a life while also getting to keep some of the freedoms from their single lives?
Here are some of the things we can work on:
- The promotion of alternative family arrangements and the space for experimentation free from prejudice.
- Promotion of a healthier understanding of old age and fight ageism.
- Promote city layouts that improve interfamily interactions.
- Take the challenge of formalizing family arrangements with world governments.
- Improving family structures for fringe groups such as homosexuals.
“People looking to experiment with new family structures can privately try out innovative ways of living their adult lives. For example, with the average size of families shrinking, it is harder then ever to raise children in modern cities and few have the protections of an extended family.”
The OLA Token
Ohlala.com has a functional tokenized economy. The logical and most technologically reassuring step we can take is building a decentralized ledger. We plan to use Stellar Lumens as our transaction layer and add a plethora of features on top of it. By combining the universal usefulness of a transaction and a reputation layer we become a social protocol.
In order to fulfill our grand ambitions we want to be independent from external financial systems. This is why we reckon it is important to have financial transactions occurs in a closed system.
The user experience fundamentally changes: we replace cash with tokens and a hand shake with a smart contract that guarantees consent electronically.
The tokens have three primary functions:
Internal Financial transactions
- Users can unlock chats.
- Users can pay for private services.
- Users can make charitable donations.
External financial transactions
- Purchase goods from partner parallel networks such as VOD, accessories & apparel, tickets.
- In platform reliability.
- Risk assessment.
The transaction layer
- Standard KYC checks are performed and depend on the user’s legal jurisdiction.
- User purchases OLA tokens either using fiat money or any of the major cryptocurrencies. This is done with in one of the following ways:
- A partner remittance/exchange network is called upon to execute the transaction. This partner has a banking license and the user’s bank account is linked to us via said third party.
- User can purchase tokens directly from the platform
- After various considerations including risk and reputation checks, a “smart contract” is generated. This is done privately with no information being shared with Ohlala. Agreed upon financials are stated.
The contract will contain at least the following information:
- User’s KYC and AML data
- User’s historical reputation ratings
- Current transaction chat history
- Agreed upon financials
Funds go into a temporary escrow wallet created specifically for this particular transaction. This includes the creation of a “multi-signature account”, which is a feature in Stellar.
Once the transaction is deemed successful by both parties, funds are exchanged from escrow to receiving party. If a dispute is necessary, necessary steps are taken
User can exchange their tokens to fiat in one of the following ways:
- With our partner crypto exchanges.
- Instantly and directly to a person’s bank account in approved jurisdictions, via partners.
The reputation economy
OLA token holders also earn the privilege to participate in Ohlala’s reputation economy. For every token that is purchased, users get points in a grades and weights system. These points can be used to interact with other users on and off network in a variety of ways. Here are some examples:
A person can choose to advertise their personal abilities to the public. User gets points for having said abilities confirmed by their peers. This is especially interesting for those with special interests and fantasies.
- A person’s ability to pay.
- A person’s ability to fulfill their contractual obligations.
- A person’s ability to be honest.
- If the person is what they say they are.
- A person’s ability to consent.
Parallel network transactions
The reputation layer is queryable via API if users grant access. Here are some potential use cases:
- A network needs to load up with initial trust which their own trust tokens being issued based on Ohlala’s reputation tokens.
- A person’s history of success in past relationships matters and it has sexual, social, financial and emotional factors. This data can be compiled and made available to external parties with user permission.
The People Involved
- Me, someone that wants to live in a world of consent is digital and interactions between people are fundamentally based on truth.
- Leonardo da Silveira, co-founder at Couchsurfing, loves the idea because it emancipates people. He sees freedom from dating anxiety as a major step for society.
- Dr. Torsten Stüber, Co-founder at Ohlala, sees this as the perfect use case for secure micro transactions based on distributed ledgers.
- Want to join? Contact pia AT ohlala.com.
Planned use of ICO funds
We want to accomplish so much and here is a taste of it:
- Create the world’s first socially responsible dating network that takes care of our dating problem once and for all. This means that we develop web and native apps with DLT underpinnings:
- A tradable microtransaction token.
- A secondary reputation token.
- One-time-use currencies created for each and every “pairing”.
- Be profitable albeit with a mission that goes beyond profit. Think of us like Red Bull: they are really adventure sports company that sells fizzy drinks to support itself.
- Proper community management raising the bar and keeping it high.
- Roll out the system to the entire gender and sexual preference spectrum.
- Built some awesome sex education apps like this one.
- Service providers educate their customers.
- Individuals educate themselves.
- Make our 3 foundations a reality.
- Roll out our product globally: Find out where demand is and take the path of least resistance from a legal and political perspective.
- Go to the following markets (more or less on this order): The whole of Germany, Austria, Switzerland, France, UK, Spain, Italy, Belgium, Netherlands, Denmark, Greece, Canada, New Zealand, Brazil and the United States (the latter when we understand this).
- Machine Learning Matchmaking: Use image recognition software to determine a person’s attractiveness to another person, use machine reading to help understand people’s intentions and as a result have their reputation be built automatically (consensually of course), and build a vouching mechanism that works. For example, if a person claims to be a master dominatrix, the proof of her ability to be this is in the hands of their clients.
We all have sex work to do.
We must imagine a world free from prejudice if we are to expect more of each other. Can we imagine a society where a woman does not have to sift through hundreds of date requests from strangers and have no idea of who is being honest? Can we imagine a world where men or women don’t have to lie to fulfill their desires? Can we reasonably live side by side with those that choose to make a living of entertainment others with their lives? Can we live in a world where- instead of anxiety driven dating experiences — we get to see honest representations of one another in dates and this opportunity is given by simply making a charitable donation to the charity of choice? Perhaps a donation to a sex education foundation for an opportunity to meet the love of a lifetime?
We all have sex work to do. We must work on our views on love and sex if we to live happier more fulfilling existences. We must help emancipate those that currently and needlessly live in the fringes of our social fabric. The Ohlala ICO aims to relieve us from this burden, be stronger in numbers and have an acting voice that needs to never speak of sex with prejudice ever again.
It is easy to support us.
- We want to contact sex workers, porn stars, sex positivity advocates and anyone that wants to help create this conversation and help us make it happen. If you know one, contact us!
- Share your dating and sex stigma stories: #openup
- We want to contact politicians, activists and scientists that want to help out.
- We want to talk to people at Apple so we can get our app in the Appstore. Do you know anyone?
- We want researchers in the field of human sexuality, desire and relationships to join our efforts.
- We will have regular video podcasts with supporters on our channel. Sign up!
Want to hear from us? Ideas?
- Sign up for updates at ico.ohlala.com
- Contact me directly: pia AT ohlala.com
*All people behind these quotes belong to the “descent civil society” and sadly cannot come out as supporting this. Sad isn’t it?