oh this is heartbreaking. I have so many feelings for this girl and for you and your husband and her sister and her mother and ugh. I can’t even imagine how difficult this transition will be for you and for her and her sister. Does her mom have any opinion on all of this? Does she at least see this as being the best thing for her daughter? (or does she even care?) You are wonderful, and committed, and a mother. You are a mother to this girl in every way that matters.