Which is not to say that it can never be pleasurable or rapturous,
Monstrous Births
Sarah Blackwood
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The rapture, as you put it, comes after the birth, the second after. Sometimes.
The experience itself is what it is, for every person who experiences it.
To live and let live, always implies we have a choice about how we treat other people, and if we will include ourselves in that.
;)