Jan 9, 2019Auntie Midori Kink Tips: Top Biscuits(This originally appeared in my newsletter for subscribers.) If you like to bottom or submit, here’s a quiz for you. If the person dominating you is doing the thing they said they like, whacking you, poking you, head-tripping you… if the person topping you is wielding their favorite toy on…Auntie Midori3 min readAuntie Midori3 min read
Aug 1, 2018Essential Rope Bondage: Step 1 Forget the Rope — SrslyLet’s continue with our ongoing conversation on getting you the hot rope play you deserve. First step — Forget the rope. Yup, I do mean exactly this. “Hold this rope and tell me what you feel” she said. She was one of my first formal teachers. …BDSM3 min readBDSM3 min read
Jun 27, 2018When a Journalist Attended ForteFemme — She Found HerselfThe following essay originally appeared in an online magazine. She’s let me reprint it here… Here’s her experience of ForteFemme… My “Femme Domme” Spirit Quest: Notes on Attending a Luxury BDSM weekend by Rachel White ~ 2015 The words “feminine dominant” inevitably conjure a specific image. Without fail, there in your mind is that hard-bitten woman, the one with all the cliched…Sex6 min readSex6 min read
Mar 18, 2018Herpes Saved My Life, Really.Herpes Saved My Life, Really. I have genital and oral herpes — and I swear it saved my life. It sounds weird, I know, but it’s true. I contracted herpes as an undergrad at Berkeley in the mid 80’s. One day, my boyfriend at the time had a cold sore on…Sex5 min readSex5 min read
Feb 26, 2018How To Get Calm When The World Is Batshit CrazySecrets of smart, calm & effective people. Overwhelmed? Are you feeling all the crazy of the world? Jittery. Spinny. Crappy. Shaky. Heart speeding. Teary. Restless. Etc etc.? Yes, we’re all feeling this, and for many of us we’ve been in this state for a pretty long time. Here are some simple and practical actions to get your calm back. These are from my amazing friends doing good in this…Meditation4 min readMeditation4 min read
Jan 10, 2018The Lies Tops & Dominants Tell (…To Themselves) #11Dominants don’t need no stinkin’ aftercare! They just dish out the sweet nasty and life’s all set. Tops need nothin’ from no one, ’cause they’re tough. Being in control makes everything instantly easy. Dominants always know what they want, especially after play, so no one should bother asking. And if…BDSM5 min readBDSM5 min read
Dec 13, 20177 Kinky Stocking Stuffers with Plausible DeniabilityHere’s a fun challenge. Find stocking stuffers for your kinky sweetie that can be opened in front of Great Aunt Wilma. Here are a few goodies I’d gift! Bamboo Rice Paddles! All the cooking spatulas. Alibi: You like to cook Truth: You like to cook up trouble and red butts. …Sex4 min readSex4 min read
Sep 21, 201710th Circle of Hell: Bra ShoppingFrom time to time I’m going to dust off and revamp archived gems of articles here. The original version of this I wrote in 2011 for an online magazine, now long gone… = = = I’ve found my fairy godmother of boobs. …Women5 min readWomen5 min read
Mar 31, 2017ProTip! Questions You Ought To Ask Before BDSM PlayLet’s say you’ve got a hot play date coming up. You own some kinky toys and you’ve taken the skills classes. You want the scene to be mind-blowing. But are you asking the necessary questions to make this happens? These are some of the questions that can make the different…Sexuality2 min readSexuality2 min read
Feb 9, 2017I will be the flicker in your blind spotThe host was gracious and kind and extremely welcoming. There was no doubt that I had a seat among the women gathered. Being welcomed, however, didn’t mean that I felt comfortable. I was very uncomfortable. My self-assigned duty as Artist In Residence there, is to be comfortable getting uncomfortable. In…Feminism3 min readFeminism3 min read
