Envy. This is not something we talk about. Being envious or jealous is considered weak and even shameful, it means that you are inferior, insecure, hostile and of course- negative. It’s one of those things that we assume everyone feels but will never really know because I think the last thing anyone will ever admit is that they are envious of someone else. Research does suggest that we compare ourselves to others all the time, whether it’s a model on the cover of a magazine or a best friend. We use others as a gauge to how well we are doing in life, which is weird but also shows what a deeply knit and interconnected culture we live in.
I’m a rocker from way back, but when I got my iPod a few years ago, my daughter and her husband made me CDs of songs they thought I might like. I’m grateful, because I never would have bought them myself, and so many of them are my favorites today. I’ve finally graduated from listening to only 60’s and 70’s classic rock! And because my husband takes band photos, we’ve made friends with many of the local musicians, and I’ve come to appreciate many new genres.