Once she was my best friend….
We all have many friends in our life, but only one best friend. This friend is someone whom with we share our personal moments, spend quality time, gossips and what not. Today I also want to introduce you to someone, once she was my best friend.
Before I tell you her name, let me tell you something about our friendship and how we became best friend. I got introduced to her in the summers of 2009.She was young & energetic. She was very approachable and welcoming, easy to befriend and always eager to start conversations. She kept information a.k.a gossips of everything and everyone around us, and kept me entertained. I used to enjoy her company. Whenever I use to say goodbye to her, she complemented me and asked me to visit her again. Our friendship started blossoming. She always had something new to tell me. Sometimes she will come up with new type of games, sometimes with new songs and new videos, with aim to always keep me entertained. She wanted me to be with her all the time. I also responded positively, by complementing her now & then. She loved and still loves to dress herself. She changes her looks frequently. Even to this date, she always comes up with some new fashion statement, surprising everyone around her.
Once when I asked why she befriends everyone, she said that she believes in philosophy of friendship. She wants to live in a world where everyone makes friends and remains in touch with them
With time she even became popular among my friends. Everyone wanted to be her friend. They had to as she was entertaining, lively, energetic et al. And she as usual, accepted everyone’s friend requests.Once when I asked why she befriends everyone, she said that she believes in philosophy of friendship. She wants to live in a world where everyone makes friends and remains in touch with them. It was such a noble thought. And we got close. She had earned my trust and now I shared everything with her, from my personal photos, family photos, secrets, views, opinions and what not.
But like all friendships, our journey had difficulties too
But like all friendships, our journey had difficulties too. I used to get irritated if I could not reach her. Now I wanted to be with her as much as possible. We had our fights too. She was growing on me. I realized that I was spending more time with her and less time with my other friends & family. Whenever I told her, I do not want to be friends any longer; she would always come up with some reasons for this rude behavior and never let me go. She made it hard for me to leave her. I found that I was not the only one who was facing this. Some of our common friends became so obsessed with her, that they got disturbed. Now they suffered from loneliness, depression, anxiety, aggression and what not. I could see some of those symptoms in me. I was spending more time with her than with my other friends.
She became the one & only person to get information about anything and everything
With her growing list of friends, she became a mammoth. All friends were connected with each other but only through her. She became the one & person to get information about anything and everything.
Now, to address the desire of her friends to be always in contact with her, she made herself available to everyone on mobile. Now everyone had her on mobile. I got cautious of this ever growing & dominating behavior of her. I started avoiding her. She asked reasons for this behavior. She reminded me how much she missed me. But I started keeping myself busy with other things so I do not think of her.
With time I gradually minimized my interaction with her. And I could feel the change. I was much more relaxed, happy & less anxious. Now, I could spend more time with my family, sports, reading etc.
Fast forward to 2016
It is seven years since I have known her. She has become more complex, complicated and huge. Now she has over 1 billion people as friends. And over 1 billion people are connected to their friends through her. But sadly her growing and dominating nature has not changed. More and more people are getting obsessed with her. Some of them still faces issue and are getting aggressive, lonely and anxious. But I wonder I if she can do anything to help them or to counter this side effect of hers. I have not completely abandoned her. We are friends but not best friends anymore. I still visit her at times. But now, she does not control me.
By the way, her name is Facebook.