There is something pure and innocent about a person who has been all by himself. He is away from all the games that one has to play, to keep a person pleased. Lonesomeness comes with no expectations, and no fear of losing control over another person.

When a person is with you. He adds a part of himself to your life. This additive effect, ends up polluting your life. And whatever you do, isn’t true to your heartfelt intentions but is actually the outcome of the commands of your mind that wants to please the partner.

This is why total freedom is pure. That’s why children are so honest. They are free from the rules set by the mind. Their intentions beyond being right or wrong are pure and true to their feelings.

But it’s hard to participate in this life alone. The lonesomeness may make you pure but after a while it stops complimenting the world. Lonesomeness brings you to the truth, and the world seems unreal. You feel like embracing the unreality of existence by giving it all up. But that’s not the way that one should approach singlehood.

Singlehood is required if one needs to understand him/herself. So that whenever a relationship is formed, it’s not because of a need but only because of an emotional truth.

Singlehood ends up teaching a lot to you, about yourself. It should be treated like an exile, which ends up bringing you face to face with your humane side and your ferine side as well. And once you know yourself. You can sense and know everyone in the world. That way the love that flowers out of the exile of your singlehood will be true, where you’ll truly value and understand your partner with an emotional depth.

I’m single since 25 years now and I’m not ashamed about it. I think I’ve more emotional clarity and understanding about my ownself. So that whenever someone true comes my way, I don’t succumb to hormones or pleasing, but can feel the honesty in people.