My bad, my bad. I was replying to someone who called that woman “racist” and “ignorant” and who implied that the only real problem with her abusers is that they “took her bait” thus, not “being better” than her. That person was clearly trying to say that both abusers and abused are equally as bad and that the abuse was explained because of the bait. I must have been so appalled that maybe I misclicked when choosing whom to send the reply. My apologies, I’m sure you are not a person who engages in victim blaming and demonizing.