Saying Goodbye, For Good

R. H. Sin
R. H. Sin
Sep 8, 2018 · 4 min read

There’s this idea that giving forgiveness means giving someone a second or third or fourth chance but what if forgiveness is simply a tool, a way of removing the weight of someone or something and the emotional affect it had on you? What if forgiveness was strictly something utilized in order to get past someone or something? I’m saying goodbye, for good this time and you should as well. Goodbye to bad health, goodbye to emotional chaos. Goodbye to family who doesn’t act like family and friends who don’t act like friends. Goodbye to resentment and anger, goodbye to feeling like we’re not good enough when we’re always trying hard enough to be appreciated and respected and love. I’m saying goodbye to everything that no longer deserves to take up room in my life and I welcome you to do the same right now. I feel like we ruin the good in saying goodbye to toxic situations, friendships and relationships by re-entertaining the things we said we wouldn’t. We ruin the good in goodbye because of second chances we give unto those who are committed to treating us bad and so this time, it’s time to say goodbye for good. Goodbye for good…meaning that walking away is for the betterment of our lives. Walking away is an opportunity to walk toward the live and love you claim you want, the life and love you truly deserve. You get there by saying goodbye for good.

Stop letting people define you by their illusion of who they think you are, don’t be defined by someones inability to appreciate all the good you’ve done for them and for those they hold dear. All your life, you’ve found yourself doing for people who rarely do for you. All your life, you’ve found yourself loving people incapable of giving you what you unto them. All your life, you’ve found yourself holding on to people who always give you enough of a reason to walk away FOR GOOD and maybe walking away FOR GOOD is out of LOVE FOR YOURSELF. Maybe saying goodbye for good is actually saying goodbye for the opportunity to love yourself and to eventually have that love appreciated and so you have to decide whether or not you want to keep feeling this way, this sadness or do you want to find the happiness you deserve on your own? That happiness that you cultivate on your own will then have the chance to be shared with the person who deserves you but first you have to say goodbye for good.

I know it’s difficult, I’ve been there in fact but you find that eventually, the bad out weighs the good and any hope you’re holding on to is just a pretty awful illusion. I know it’s difficult, I know it’s easier said than done but you must get to a place where you love yourself more than you’re willing to let them hurt you. The best way to get over a person is to also realize that their behavior often has nothing to do with you and that their issues with appreciating and loving you may stem from how they grew up, how they were raised or how most of their relationships begin, continue and end. Identifying the behavior and why, often makes it easier to forgive a person. But you’re not forgiving them just to allow them hurt you over and over again, you’re forgiving them because that can also open a door to finally allowing yourself to move on.

Life is a very short moment of time and it gets even shorter when you’re living a life that doesn’t bring you peace and so with that being said, it’s time to do more of what will eventually bring you peace. Even if it means walking away from the person you thought you needed or loved. Nothing you do for a person who doesn’t respect your effort or energy will never mean or change a thing about that relationship and people who are comfortable with giving you less than you give will often continue to do so, if you allow it and I believe that the easiest and hardest way to get the love you deserve is to walk away from the person who no longer deserves you. Say goodbye for good and you’ll notice that sometime down the road, you’ll be living better. Moving on will put you closer to a space where true love can grow and be nourished but you have to choose yourself, don’t wait. Saying goodbye could be a good thing if you let it.

R. H. Sin

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