I’m in my mid 40’s and totally agree with you. I think the general attitude about “real” work for people of a certain age is that, in our society where “everyone is a winner” and “everyone is special”, people feel they are “better” than some jobs.
On the other hand, it’s not always the kids but the parents — we have a family friend whose teenage son took the initiative to get a summer job mowing lawns but his mother basically told him he couldn’t take the job. Her justification was “I don’t want him doing work like that.”
I am fortunate that my parents told my siblings and I that as soon as we were old enough to work (13 or 14, I forget the laws) we would be expected to get some kind of job. It didn’t need to be full time, but at least a couple of days. The money we earned was ours to do with what we wanted but it was a way our parents made sure we learned the value of money and work.
I was also fortunate that my grand parents were able to provide most of the money we all needed for college (my father was an only child) but again it was made clear to us that my parents would support us through college graduation but after that we were on our own.
Of course, if necessary, our parents would help us out post college but they made damn sure we did everything we could to earn (and save!) money.
I’m not sure how the values taught to us got lost in the next generation.