I’d fucked it up.
Nope. Why does even mentioning differences have to be taboo? You’re not allowed to make jokes that could be, by ill-informed or malicious people, considered implying a better or worse situation?
Maybe this is a flaw within myself but I have joked with my teammates in that manner knowing that beneath it was a great deal of respect. A trust.
There’s a difference between recognizing a reality and judging it. The reality is women aren’t as involved in the Tech workforce as we would all like; the same could be said of Nursing (at least in a past era) in the reverse. So it *is* notable, but acknowledging the obvious isn’t the same thing as degrading it.
I think the bigger fuck-up is hiring people who you can’t trust to take a glib remark and embrace the newly hired employees as equals regardless of their gender.
Sexism is out there but do we really need such a big filter or can we build up the trust for gentle ribbing and fun?