As a gay man, I understand your sentiment. However, someone has to start building the bridge. Yes, the trans woman is risking more by sitting down and talking to the transphobe, but is there a better way to change his view on the subject? The goal we should have is not “Convert them all to how we think” but “Foster understanding and let them see that we are human, just like them”. If you have a better way of brokering peace I’d love to hear it.