I like to think we all want to be happy and live the life we want. However, what does it take to be miserable and never live the life you want?
In some ways, that might be easier than the former. Let’s see.
“You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” -Albert Camus
There’s a paradox in the pursuit of happiness, that is: Everyone thinks they know how to get a ton of it, but in reality, everyone’s lost trying to find a little piece of it. …
In the bible (Matthew 14:22–36), a story is told of Peter and the disciples on a boat. Jesus has commanded them to cross the Sea of Galilee in the middle of a storm.
As the disciples are crossing the sea, a figure appears to be walking towards them. Frightened at the thought of it being a ghost, they cry out in fear and hear the reply of Jesus, “Take heart; it is I. Do not be afraid.”
Peter answered him, “Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the water.” He said, “Come.”
So, Peter begins to step out of the boat. He takes one foot, followed by the other, and starts moving towards Jesus. With his eyes constantly fixated on the Lord, he is able to physically walk on the water. …
Tony Robbins once said, “The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with.”
Indeed, your unwillingness to confront difficult emotions is the primary barrier stopping you from everything you want in life.
No matter what you do or achieve, there is a path to get there. However, it will be unclear and hazy. It will be outside of your comfort zone and give rise to a whole heap of uncomfortable emotions.
Thus, you will need to forget about how you feel in the moment in order to walk it. …
When most people think about those who succeed or get a lot done, they like to think that they were just ‘born that way,’ that they got ‘a little lucky,’ or there was some magical moment that changed everything for them.
However, you never shape your life through a single moment, but rather, each sequential moment. It’s what you do in one moment that determines what you experience in the next. As Gary Keller has said,
“The truth about success is that our ability to achieve extraordinary results in the future lies in stringing together powerful moments, one after the other. …
Imagine if the life you created in your head was what shaped your experiences today, tomorrow and the next day. What if the view you held of yourself was the greatest determining factor in who you physically become?
This is the reality of the world we live in. Through your thoughts and beliefs is how you create yourself. As James Allen has said, “As a man thinketh, so he is. As he continues to think, so he remains.”
Dr. Joseph Murphy had similarly wrote,
“As you sow in your subconscious mind, so shall you reap in your body and environment.”
If you want something different, then you must believe something different. …
“Every time you say yes to something you don’t want to do, this will happen: you will resent people, you will do a bad job, you will have less energy for the things you were doing a good job on, you will make less money, and yet another small percentage of your life will be burned up.” -James Altucher
Two days had gone by, I knew the job wasn’t the right fit. Someone had reached out presenting me with a writing opportunity.
It was lucrative, but time-consuming, and in an area I had zero interest. …
According to Philip Zimbardo, author of The Time Paradox, people tend to make decisions in one of three ways; either past, present, or future-facing.
When you make decisions based upon the past, it’s because you are quite literally living in the past. You’ve run out of future to pursue. Rather than trying to progressively move your life forward, everything has become about maintaining your own status-quo or seeking out some sort of “nostalgia.”
When you make decisions based upon the present, you’ve bought into the idea of ‘living in the moment.’ Everything has become about pleasure. If it sucks, you don’t do it. If the outcome can’t be guaranteed, then what’s the point? …
There’s a quote I’ve been pondering this week from Elliott Bisnow. It says: “Don’t ‘I wonder’ through life. Just make it happen.”
Thinking about this brings the question: What are the goals you have for yourself but aren’t currently doing? What are the outcomes you want for your life that you haven't yet fully committed to?
You can always fantasize and make as many plans as you like. However, there comes a time where your dreams are just that and nothing more. …
Productivity is simple. It ultimately comes down to just two things: being clear of your intentions and taking deliberate steps in the right direction. What’s interesting is that the 10/90 rule can actually help with both.
Specifically, the 10/90 rule says that the first 10 percent of time you spend planning and organizing your work before you begin will save you as much as 90 percent of the time in getting the job done once you get started.
For example, every minute spent in planning can, therefore, save you up to as much as ten minutes in execution.
Research in the field of psychology also agrees. One study clearly states that having clarity about your goals is essential to having the motivation to achieve those goals. If you’re not clear on what you’re doing, then it’s very hard to be motivated. …
Many people hold the false belief that everyone can’t be an entrepreneur. They like to throw words around like, “The economy needs employees,” “Not everyone’s made to be an entrepreneur,” or “There aren’t enough opportunities to go around.”
However, this is an old myth that needs to be dispelled. In truth, everyone can be an entrepreneur. Here’s why.
“School is a factory, and the output of that factory is compliant workers who buy a lot of stuff. These students are trained to dream small dreams.” -Seth Godin
Someone like Gary Vaynerchuk may be a great and successful entrepreneur. However, his view on getting into the business is totally wrong. …