The past few posts I’ve had have been about pretty general topics and I’ve been kind of vague in all of them. I’ve talked about stuff and told you what I think about things, but I haven’t really talked about how to go about doing these things. I haven’t really given you much value for your reading besides getting some insight.
This week I wanna do something different. I wanna give you a post that’s tactical. I wanna give you something that you can deploy in your day to day occurrences that might benefit you.
This week I wanna talk about being mindful. Some people might think of some form of meditation when they hear the word mindful. What I’m trying to get at here is something much deeper than that. Sure, meditation is a fairly normal practice to attain a sense of mindfulness, but what I wanna talk about is a holistic approach to being mindful. Something you can do at any given point of your day, and something that if applied correctly can actually help quite a bit (it has in my life at least).
So how do we be mindful?
The answer in itself is quite simple. And that’s to be aware. Whether it’s being aware of the world around you, being aware of your thoughts, or your feelings, being mindful really boils down to just being aware of whats going on right now. In this moment. Here.
Now let’s talk about some things we can do to help attain a sense of mindfulness.
First of all be grateful.
Gratitude towards everything and anything in your life is really the simplest thing you can do. In being grateful, we allow ourselves to see the positive side of everything. We basically tell our brain that we are making the choice to be grateful, even when it might not seem like the most “logical” thing to do. So next time someone messes up your coffee order, be grateful that you’re in a place where you can actually order a coffee and then be grateful that the person was kind enough to fix your order. The same can be applied to the bigger things in life, like stress. Life gets real hard sometimes. It seems like there isn’t anything we can do to solve all of our problems and we feel swamped. Rather than give up, or feel stressed, we can feel grateful for the challenge. Grateful for the opportunity to grow stronger. Gratitude will shift the negative perspective to a positive one, and remind ourselves that we choose to believe the things we do.
Second, understand when things are not in your control, and let them go.
One of the biggest things I’ve struggled with in the past is learning to let things go. Naturally, I grew up being a control freak, wanting everything to be perfect. If it wasn’t I would lose it. Over time, I’ve realized that there are a lot of things that really just aren’t in my control. There are a lot of things that will basically go against all my efforts, and make everything I’ve tried, end up in the exact opposite way than I wanted. I’ve learned to let these things go.
By no means is it easy. But the rationale behind it is that if the thing is not in my control, if I did everything that I possibly could do, and things still didn’t work out, then I’m content. Because I know that I did all that I could. Not only does this bring me comfort, but it constantly pushes me to be doing all that I can, because I don’t want to live with the regret of wondering what could have been if I had just tried a bit harder. So I encourage everyone to give everything they’ve got when pursuing their goals. Leave no doubt that you did your best, your brain will reward you for it.
The last thing I wanna talk about that helps me be mindful of everything is simply doing nothing.
Yup you read that correctly. Do nothing. Just sit there. Turn everything off. No phones, no tablets, no music, no computer, NOTHING. Just sit, and ponder. Think about stuff. What’s going on? Talk to yourself. Yeah you’ll look and sound kinda crazy, but who cares? Sit down, think about what’s on your mind, what’s bothering you, what you need to do, what you’re feeling.
I try to take at least 10 minutes out of my day every day to think about stuff. Think about what I need to do, think about what I’ve already done, think about things that are going on my life. In doing so, I give myself time to understand where I’m at. I give myself time to start pondering my course of action. So much of our time is spent in action, that I think we tend to ignore the time we should be spending on ourselves. Stepping back and being alone with your thoughts may sound a bit scary at first. But doing so will definitely provide you with new insight you didn’t have before. Over time, you’ll get used to it, and will start to look forward to it. And hey, if you don’t like it, you’ll be able to tell yourself that pretty quickly, and then you can do whatever works best for you.
So I leave you with these three points, be grateful, understand when you’re not in control and let it go, and just do nothing. I’m actively trying to do every single one of these things on a daily basis. And I’ve been doing so for quite some time now. I’ve found that in doing so, I am much more calm and focused on the things that I need to do. I find myself better able to organize thoughts, and overall find that I have a much more positive outlook on everything. Now, there are also other things that I am actively doing and I could keep on going, but I think I’ll save that for a future post as I’ve probably taken up enough of your time.
Until next time, keep it positive. Keep relaksing.