Stop This “New Year New Me” BS
In the spirit of the New Year, I figured I’d comment on something I see a lot of these days. And that’s the idea of the whole “New Year New Me” BS that everyone spews at the beginning of every single year.
All this crap about having a “clean slate” or a “fresh start” really gets me going, and I’ll never really understand it.
People talk about this kind of stuff as if the start of a new year means the problems they had from the old year disappeared.
Reality check, all of your problems are still there. They don’t care that it’s a new year.
If you were overweight last night, you’re still overweight today. There’s no clean slate.
If you were procrastinating on doing something you’ve been pondering for the past few years, you’re still doing that. You don’t just get to turn it off.
NOTHING changes because the calendar now says 2018 as opposed to 2017.
You’re still the same person. Who are you trying to kid?
There is no clean slate.
There is no fresh start.
Life doesn’t work that way.
Now that we’ve established that, I wanna talk about what a new year does mean to me.
I’m not one to base my goals around things like the New Year. I don’t say “In 2018, X,Y, and Z will happen.” Instead, I use each year as basically another chapter of my life. And I don’t even try to force it, it’s just a way to label a certain period of time in my life.
So today marks the beginning of a new chapter of my life. This doesn’t mean that my goals have changed. This doesn’t mean that I’m a “new person”. All it means is that when I look back at my life 5, 10, 15 years from now, I can sit and say “Man, 2018 was the year I did this, that, and the other thing.” NOTHING about the year is associated with my goals. The person I am in 2018 is the exact same as I was in 2017, which was less than 24 hours ago.
So how might a new year help us?
If you want to be able to look back on this year, and say “2018 was the year where I…” and have that sentence finish with something your proud of, then you’ve got a lot of work ahead of you. Good thing is, you’re not alone. Everyone has goals. Everyone has somewhere they wanna go.
Let’s stop waiting for something to happen before we start pushing towards our goals.
Let’s stop trying to make an excuse as to why we’re lazy. Or why we’re worried about what other people think. Or why we’re scared to fail.
Let’s set a goal, and just start.
Because this “New Me” BS isn’t gonna get you anywhere. Trying to make abrupt changes from one day to the next isn’t sustainable. It’s just not.
Focus on the little things. Wake up half an hour earlier to give yourself the time to do that thing you’ve always wanted.
Wanna get fit?
Start waking up 30 minutes earlier, and go for a walk in the morning.
Wanna learn a new language?
Wake up 30 minutes earlier and spend time learning a few words here and there.
Wanna learn a new instrument?
Wake up 30 minutes earlier and practice it.
See where I’m going?
It’s really not about making some super drastic change in your life that will allow you to get to where you wanna go.
Instead, it’s about taking small steps to get to where you wanna go. But what you have to understand is,
YOU HAVE TO START.
So let’s stop this “New Year New Me” crap, because it doesn’t last. You’re still the same. Stop lying to yourself and everyone else around you. Stop getting caught up in the hype.
And if anything, let 2018 be the year that you look back on and say “that was the year where I started doing things I wanted to do”. The year should be defined in hindsight. You can’t look forward and define what your year is going to be about. You don’t control the year. You control what you do on a daily basis. You control what you do TODAY, RIGHT NOW.
So let’s fix the things we can. Let’s put in work on the things we can change, and leave the rest to patience, effort, and time.
Until next time.
Keep it positive.
Happy New Year.