5 Tips You Can Get From The Best Divorce Therapists

Renee Leff
Sep 1, 2018 · 3 min read

Two people get married with the hope and desire to lead a happy and love-filled life. They plan a lot of things about their future. However, life is not a bed of roses always; it can have thorns as well. When it turns out to be difficult for a married couple to stay together in the same house or in the relationship, they consider divorce as their final option. There is no doubt that the process of divorce can be very painful for some couples. If the process gets complicated, things might become even worse. This is where a divorce coach can help you out.

A divorce therapist or coach can guide you in the right direction. He/she can help you avoid mistakes related to the process of separation. During the process, a coach will provide you with some highly useful tips. Some of them are mentioned below.

· Maintain a safe distance- Once you have decided to get separated, make sure you maintain a professional distance between each other. The best divorce therapists will always offer you this advice. It would be better if both of you keep the relationship somewhat professional during the discussions. In this way, both of you will be able to discuss things in a logical way. After the divorce, as you move into co-parenting phase, effort should be given on turning the professional relation into a friendly one.

· Listen to the mediator- Most of the divorce lawyers will help you prepare for the worst situations. On the other hand, the role of a divorce coach is to bring out your best. Nobody likes heading towards a war-like situation. The coaches know how to establish a positive and healthy line of communication between a husband and his wife. They know how to solve the minor issues. So, if you don’t want to complicate your situation, you must listen to your mediator.

· Communicate with your kids- When it comes to child custody mediation, these coaches can offer you a lot of help. They can help you jot down a plan that speaks in the best interest of your kids. You can write a co-parenting plan, make sure it speaks directly to your kids. If they are old enough, you can even share the plan with them. After reading the same, they will be able to understand the vital aspects of the separation and co-parenting plan in a much better way.

· Get everything in writing- In the case of child custody mediation, it is absolutely okay to trust your partner and his/her lawyer. But, it is also important for you to get everything in writing. It might happen that you or your partner could forget a few points from the agreement. In such situations, having a copy of the written agreement will help a lot.

· Keep an open mind- If you want your separation to happen smoothly then you must make yourself a little flexible. Do not let your ego or stubbornness get in your way of separation from your spouse. It will only complicate the situation.

So, those were the five tips that most of the best divorce therapists would recommend you.

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