Why I am so quiet and reserved; not that you care!

thetownauthor
Jul 21, 2017 · 2 min read

“People are strange.” Jim Morrison of The Doors is neither the first or last person to utter those words.

I have gotten more reserved over the years. (I used to be more optimistic about individuals and their intentions). I generally do not initiate or reciprocate ‘small talk’ (Its not my job to entertain you), or break the silence that some consider awkward.

I used to be much more outgoing, and generally trusted individuals. I finally saw people as they are; fallible human beings with hangups, problems, issues, and lots of selfishness.

Let me digress, nice gals and guys are misunderstood….

As an example, I have been described as a “Nice guy”, I’m not sure what that means to others. For me it means being courteous, empathic, considerate, tolerant, and at times tactful. (Also minding my own business!)

At times, for others, it may mean strategic ‘ass kissing’ or simply more planning in their their contrived world.

I guess I am like others, and think others think as I and have similar values. The rudest awakening I have received over the years as how many individuals are more self-centered or selfish and contrived.

Here comes a distinction; they may be polite, civil and demonstrate other attributes of ‘nice’ until things don’t go their way. Then the veneer or facade is removed and you see them as the pathetic selfish self serving (____) they are.

Individuals are looking out for number one; some much more, some much less than others. Individuals are generally fearful of many things. It seems they create drama if there is nothing going on; yet lament about how life and people should be simpler, nicer, and more manageable.

Yes, I realize the dark side of human nature. Yes, I realize that many are driven by fear, and attempt to take control of their environment by being so contrived in their thoughts and actions. All the while realizing they are also capable of doing good; as long as things go their way.

If you approach me, I am listening for your agenda. Are you killing time with small talk or simply fishing. It’s not paranoia if there is merit to it. Suspicions about others agendas have increased as I interact with people day in and day out.

Quiet frankly, it appears a lot of people are full of bullshit!

So, if you approach me, and I do little more than silently acknowledge your presence. I am being polite. But don’t get upset if I don’t engage in a meaningless dialogue!

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