Integrity Rules The World!
Integrity is many things as Brene Brown states. But to start off here today, I would like to focus on each individual one moment at a time. First off, integrity is choosing courage no matter how much you wanna and would rather be comfortable. Because when you are comfortable, you remain where you are and don’t change nor move from where you are. You remain in your comfort zone, where you don’t challenge yourself to change nor take any risks. And you must keep in mind:
If something doesn’t challenge you, it won’t change you.
Taking the step of being courageous takes a lot in someone and that needs to be recognized and give others grace for doing and achieving. I believe this because so many people aren’t given the grace that they deserve for so many things that others don’t understand how they deserve and seems rather logical to give them at all. This remains the same on repeat because of one thing: shame! Shame is quite the powerful emotion which Brene Brown studied and I will cover my thoughts, insights, advice, tips and more in tomorrow’s blog post!
Next subtopic, choosing what’s right over what’s fun, easy and fast. It may seem or appear easier to do what’s easiest but truth be told, nothing that’s easy is worth having. No matter how hard something is, it’s so worth everything you find yourself doing in the process towards the outcomes you want. You want to be happy, peaceful, loving, loved and anything else; you gotta put the work in and do whatever you need to do in order to receive and earn the results in the end!
And remember one more thing; the mistakes and choices that you make in the process, is something that you’ll learn from and gain with time. And deep down in the near future down the road, you’ll thank yourself for making all those choices and mistakes. Because they led you to who and where you are in your life today! And boy is that something worth celebrating and giving yourself the grace that you deserve!
Be proud of your scars, they make you who you are! – Evie, Descendants 2
And forget about waiting for the day when your family, friends and others to give you grace for accomplishments like these small ones. They don’t believe they are worth the grace nor celebrating. Because they say that anyone can do that, and that there’s no need for a medal. But what’s important to remind yourself and to remember here in these moments: is to believe that you made some great accomplishments and you deserve to celebrate them and give yourself the grace that you so truly deserve!
Stop waiting or seeking for others to give you grace and work on giving yourself grace in these moments. Moments like these are hard but they are so worthy of so much more than waiting/seeking for other’s approval or to give you grace in return. Because they don’t know what’s right nor what to admire, because they are haters. One more thing: not everyone is gonna like you, that’s okay. If you don’t like someone, don’t like them; but don’t hate them, hate is a strong word.
You live and you learn. – Leona Lewis, Fire Under My Feet
These are the kinds of moments in your life that you can learn from and become stronger and wiser in the long run. In the real life, what you do with yours matters. And as long as it makes you happy and you are doing it being your most authentic self, that’s all that matters! Screw what the rest of society thinks and wants you to do. Don’t listen to what they want you to, nor continue to let them have that kind of power over you.
Focus on the things that matter and those that you value and you prioritize. Focus on those things and eventually those others things won’t have power over you anymore. Trust me, it works and its an amazing feeling and moment to experience!
What you give power to, has power over you.
Next is to focus on practicing your values. Spending time using and practicing those things and people you value and prioritize. It’s time that you spend time where, when and how you want to! After all it’s your life, and you get to choose how you want to live it! Again, don’t listen to what society wants you to be and how they want you to live your life.
It’s not their life, and nor their responsibility nor their business to speak or demand. It’s their life and themselves who they are responsible for.
Nobody grabbed my hand. Thought it buried me. Instead I’m set free. Moving onto bigger things. I begin to spread my wings. No longer in chains, I’m dancing over these flames. – Leona Lewis, Fire Under My Feet
It’s time that we do whatever we want to do! Do more of what makes you happy! Do what you feel like doing without a care in the world of what society thinks or says. What matters is what you think in that moment and what you think about yourself! That’s it for today! Talk again tomorrow!
