Love & Self Love

Psychology & love

Laura Annabelle
Jul 20, 2017 · 4 min read

The difference between love with a partner (romantic partner) and love for ourself, it’s important and known that one must learn to love oneself first before putting themselves in the dating world or rather to say out there to experience life with love in all of its possibilities.

We must love ourselves unconditionally first before we can find ourselves to love someone else and to be loved by someone else.

Love is something that’s always worth no matter how hard life gets. Just work and focus on yourself and when the time comes, seize the moment, and don’t expect or make it particularly perfect.

You don’t have to be perfect to be perfect for someone!

Loving ourselves? Wow, to many of us, that will sound odd and weird to give ourselves that kind of attention on that kind of level. Our parents have trained our brains and taught us to take care of ourselves on the level of personal hygiene but aside from that nothing else should be taken care of.

Well when it comes to psychology, everything about that is different. It’s looked as though not just personal hygiene being important with taking care of ourselves, but also on the new level of taking time to spend alone to figure things out, to learn about ourselves and who we truly are and lastly, to indulge in some self care and self love being as watching a few episodes of Grey’s Anatomy or any tv series on Netflix or Crave. This is recommended during times of need, when one is feeling emotionally sensitive and needs time to spend alone to wind down or to just be selfish.

This kind of ritual/routine is not selfish in the definition of the term that society labels to be, but rather well recommended and necessary. It’s rather to also saying that we should be more kind with ourselves and not nearly as harsh on ourselves as we all have been over the many years of our own individual lives.

Which is why psychology and mental health is so important that we allow it all to be part of our life and part of our society and world. So that we can then be impacted greatly by psychology and mental health as long as we allow it to!

Loving myself was as hard as the rest of my recovery was but I did. And I’m here to say that its been worthwhile so far and will continue to pay off with time! And until then, I’m gonna continue to work on myself and with my recovery like I’ve been doing for the past 2 years!

Day one of my mental health recovery brought many things along my path through the journey and one important thing that I knew this first day was that it would have to come and start from within me which was not one bit easy or simple at all. And another being that I never expected my life to turn out the way it would and with all the things I was put through and experienced with my mental health recovery.

It’s one thing to know that mental health recovery won’t be an easy one and yet its another to experience all those terrible and unbearable things that you really feel aren’t fair nor ethical in any way to any human being or citizen of society. But as much as that may be true with how we feel about that, we must experience them and allow ourselves to continue to suffer in silence with what little support we have to get through them. To come out stronger and wiser in the end. When it comes to mental illness, we can come out stronger and learn so many useful and valuable lessons that we can then use for the rest of our individual lives.

We must experience the worst days in order to “earn” our best days and believe me, everything that we work hard for, pays off and is all worthwhile! And for me, I can say so myself because of all the choices I made in my recovery that remained true, authentic and stronger each day as I progressed through the journey which was yet so hard. And yet each day, becomes more worthwhile of all my hard work as I receive and reward myself with rewards that contribute with paying off my hard work in my recovery.

To finish off here, I’d like to say that my recovery and my life have been quite worth all my hard work and I believe that life will be rewarding me with a few big rewards really soon. But until then, I’m gonna continue to work hard with my recovery and let life happen as it happens!

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Laura Annabelle

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I'm just someone who believes that she is extra-ordinary, is trying to figure out her life while living with many mental illnesses! #staystrong

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