Anne Holland
Nov 6 · 1 min read

So…it’s an exercise in himpathy? Instead of feeling badly for your wife for being saddled with an angry, hovering, largely useless partner who thinks flowers make up for creating an unpleasantly charged atomosphere and then running away to clear his head, we are supposed to feel sorry for you and grateful you have a sliver of self realization? You can control your attitude, your patterns of thinking, your actions, your moods. You are actively in control. You can be a better person. Slapping a bandaid of flowers on and thinking you’ve done well, is insulting. (And I say that as a flower pro) Get help if you can’t figure out partnering on your own. Writing detailed descriptions of what you think your wife does wrong is not helpful, it’s harmful. Toxic male thinking is not your fault, however once you know you are infected, it’s your responsibility to heal yourself and stop doing harm.

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