I totally agree. I didn’t read it that way. I’ve been the butt of many an ex’s joke and no way in hell is it fun, nice, or endearing. As someone who takes herself FAR too seriously and having dated a man who lacks a sense of humor, he cannot laugh at himself. It’s imperative to find the humor in ourselves to show that vulnerability to our partners. It helps to drop the guard a little bit. Get us in better tune with each other and less walking on eggshells. I hope that makes sense.