Robert, well said. Thank you for such great insight. I struggle with people who know they need to make a change in order to keep moving forward. But if I can’t help that person see the issues affecting them and us as a whole, I must walk away.
I have learned the very hard way that no one is going to change for you. They will only change if the impetus is there and they are willing to make the leap. It goes back to https://medium.com/p-s-i-love-you/on-dating-men-with-potential-2a7a5fbf5b0b?source=linkShare-4cfebd701e7b-1472216695. Thank you Christiana for this piece. The two are quite related in my opinion.
No amount of potential or possibly pointing out the flaws or issues one sees is going to change the situation unless that person wants to see that change in themselves.
There is much truth in the saying be “the change you wish to see in the world.” If they don’t want it, no one can force it. It leaves the other person between a rock and a hard place. Do you walk or do you accept your partner or whomever for what and who they are? It’s a very difficult decision to make.