Dear “H”- From One Mother to Another.

{An Open Letter to the REDDIT user “H” who posted a letter to her child she plans to abort.}

(Any similarities to other opinion pieces on this topic are purely coincidental and unintended; this topic is trending across various social media platforms and is being addressed by various pro-life bloggers and organizations.)

Dear “H”

Over the past week I have thought of you, your letter, your position and most importantly your unborn child. I have tried to possibly understand the situation you must be in; a situation in which you feel the necessity to take a HUMAN life in an effort to ensure your own quality of life. I’ve tried telling myself that you are a young girl with little education and no family support and feel trapped into thinking this is your only choice. I have tried to convince myself of these things even though I’m pretty sure this is not the case but yet one who truly believes that they are resided to the idea of “I’m left with this as my only option; therefore I have made peace with it” I assure you, “H”, You have not made peace with this. You may think you have, you may find yourself becoming defensive at the very sight of my words, yet I can tell you with confidence that you are not at peace with this decision. Maybe not today, or even tomorrow but someday down the road you will open your eyes and be overcome with grief, with a feeling of “guilt”, a feeling of emptiness and loss, a feeling of “missed opportunity”. You will long for the child whose life was ended. How do I know this? Because I felt it, I felt the sadness and desperation in your letter. I also felt the love; the overwhelming desire to give the child within you a better life than what you had. I felt the heartbreak in your words, women that are “ok” with their decision (as other Reddit users said) do not pen letters to their unborn children, in fact many of these women do not even recognize the life within them much less talk about the dreams and hopes they hold for that life.

The same heart that prompted you to write this letter and feel those things for your child; I beg you to please listen to IT; not the broken and deceitful people who want to claim your baby’s death as a victory for their own selfish and political agenda. Do not allow these people to claim victory over a life you know is meaningful. Your child is nothing more to them than a pawn in their twisted game of greed and propaganda. Your little one is just a pawn to them. They do not love your child like you do, in fact they don’t love him/her at all. These people do not care how this will affect you; mentally, physically, or emotionally. They will not be there to hold your hand through the physical pain that comes after an abortion. They will not be there to sit by your side, and support you through your grief. If someday down the road you never see that “little blue plus” because of complications the people you think are on your side will not be there to support you through losing motherhood. These people who you think “support” your decision do not truly support you, they support the idea that you are willing to do something that idolizes the act they are pushing so adamantly to have accepted by an entire society. I plead with you if you only truly HEAR one thing I’m saying to you, let it be this.

Your child is someone. Your child is real and here and wanting to meet you and thank you for giving them life.

If you want your child, THIS child to have all the things you didn’t have and feel the joy and love that you never felt, now is the time to give that gift. This is the only time, there will not be another chance to provide such selfless love to another human. You can choose death or choose life, but there will not be a redo or a second chance. This is it. This is everything. You very well may have other kids in the future but you will never have this one again. This child with their own unique and vast potential and incredible promise. There is no way that your life or anyone’s life could be made better by killing the innocent. It’s impossible.

I know you are afraid, fear is an overwhelming part of motherhood even when the child is “expected” or “planned” for. I am always afraid as a mother, so please know that I am not trying to discount your fear but I am saying that extinguishing the life within you will not calm the fear or settle your anxious mind. This is not a solution, I promise you. Abortion is not a “fix” because a CHILD is not a problem. There is not a single thing that can be made better by choosing to end your child’s life.

Only a mother can understand the sacrifice it takes to allow this precious life to enter this world and the impact this life will have on others. I know you said you “can’t be a mother” right now BUT you already ARE a mother. Not just because you are pregnant but because you have felt in your heart the unconditional love for a being that is a piece of your soul, because you want and hope for BETTER for them than what you know as a reality. You are a mother because I know you love this child and I know that if you are strong enough to believe that, to accept that then you are strong enough to do this, to carry this child and give them a chance to live a life that you dream for him/her.

You may not be ready to take this child home and raise them but there are real people who are eager to open up their homes and their hearts to your beautiful little one. Your child is WANTED there are REAL people who spend every moment of every single day PRAYING for a child. For a chance to share the unconditional love they feel with that soul, to provide that child with EVERY single thing YOU want this child to have. There are parents out there (myself included) who have experienced the sudden and tragic loss of a child who are every single day praying to God to give them a chance to love and hold and provide for another child and YOU can give that precious gift to them. YOU have the power and ability to literally CHANGE lives FOREVER. If you will please email me {Rebecca@RTLCC.org}, I can and will put you in touch with them. I will do my very best to support you and your decision to give this incredible gift to someone, and I will stand by your side and be your TRUE friend and do everything within my power to be there for you, I will to the very best of my ability walk with you step by step regardless of time of day BUT most importantly I am NOT the only person that will do this. There are so many amazing and wonderful organizations that will help you and this precious child. If you are worried about maternity expenses and healthcare there are amazing people and charities that will help you with that also.

Your child can still have a good life, it is not too late, and they can still live and be happy. They can experience love and comfort and true unbridled happiness. There are so many incredible families out there who want badly to embrace your child, to love your child and make sure that they have the life he/she deserves — a life filled with hope and laughter and wonder but most importantly with love. That’s the life you want for your child, that is why you feel the way you feel right now in this moment and you have the power to give your child the ONE thing NOONE else can, a chance at this life.

Please think past tomorrow. Please think about the future, your future and your child’s future. If you choose to abort your baby, it will be a future in a world utterly deprived of their presence. Your child will be gone, they will not exist and there will be a painful and never ending void. The sound of your child’s unique laughter will not be heard, there will be silence instead. The beautiful eyes you imagine will never be looked into by another soul, all of the possibilities and potential your child has within them RIGHT NOW at this very moment will be gone, missing from everywhere and all that will be left is only a dream of what could have been.

OR…..JUST IMAGINE THIS it can be a future blessed by the precious life of your child. A world that will be shaped, by YOUR child’s actions and choices. Instead of that hopeless silence where your child’s laughter WOULD have been there can be a voice; your child’s voice which as the ability and the potential to inspire an entire world. And ALL of this, all of your child’s successes, their joys, all of the good your child does while on this earth; all of it will be thanks to you. To his/her incredible and selfless mother who CHOSE LIFE, who took all her fears and doubts and for 9 incredible months channeled them into ensuring that their LIFE was allowed to continue, that their LIFE was given to this earth — PLEASE think about that future. It can happen, I promise you it can and it will be beautiful.

With Love and Support,

R