We live in a society that seemingly embraces the dictum -
It is easier to ask forgiveness than to ask permission.
We live in a society in which men mock their friends as “whipped” if they so much as consult their life-partner on a decision.
At every step, we are exhorted to “Just Do It!” — “Go for it!”. In every moment, we all know that failure to take the risk, introduces the risk of being labelled a coward, a failure, a “less-than”.
How often has a “boss” told you to “take initiative”; told you to “stop waiting for permission”…
I’m sure you’ve heard of transference. Most of us know of transference in the context of psychological counselling. You know — the patient develops feelings for their shrink. While we may think it’s just a joke, it is so iconically real that it’s become a persistent plot point in many books, movies, and TV series.
What we are less aware of though, is that falling in love with one’s shrink is actually the least common form of transference. …
My writing is usually prompted by a title. That’s how my mind works. Not today. Things are a bit different today. Whether that difference will turn out to be better or worse remains to be seen.
If you’ve been following my writing on Medium, you’ve probably gathered that I’m going through a bit of a tough time. I won’t go into too many details, but here’s a nutshell summary.
Even when life has repeatedly kicked the crap out of us, we still have moments of optimism. We still occasionally (okay, nearly always) wish that we, and our lives, could be better than they are.
Some of our first conscious thoughts as an infant, probably had to do with ambitions to be someone we were not yet; to do something we had not yet done. Otherwise, why would we have bothered to learn to talk, walk, or do anything for ourselves?
Think about it from a baby’s perspective, they have it made. Babies are held, loved, snuggled, fed, cleaned, and…
In recent times, “mindfulness” has become one of those words that often causes grimaces, and surreptitious searches for the nearest exit. There are certain people you just don’t want to be trapped with in a lift. Think “evangelists” of all types — vegetarians/vegans, animal activists, evangelicals, atheists, minimalists, bitcoin enthusiasts, and mindfulness practitioners.
Please don’t get me wrong. I don’t think that there’s anything wrong with those people or their practices … per se. Some of them are wonderful. (it’s me … not them?)
Seriously though. Much of what these, and other enthusiastic people have to say is true, helpful…
I can’t remember how many times, during my youth, I heard things like, “Curiosity killed the cat”. I’m sure most of you had similar experiences.
Many of the questions we asked as children, were answered with a “curiosity killed the cat”-type brush-off. I’d love to be able to say that things have changed for the better in the decades since I was a child … but they haven’t. Children still hear things like :
“Curiosity killed the cat.” “Little children shouldn’t ask big questions.” “Children should be seen and not heard.” “I’ll tell you when you’re older.” “You’re too young…
Sometimes a week doesn’t go quite as planned. Sometimes that week is a year. Sometimes, it may feel more like a lifetime.
So, when weeks like that crop up, what do you do?
What happens when you sit down to write in the suddenly, critically-limited time available, and … nothing.
So, you comb through your Evernote Ideas notebook, and … nothing. Nothing that catches your attention. Nothing that fires up those soggy braincells. Nothing to excite or inspire. Nothing into which you feel you can put heart and soul.
So, what do you write, when there’s nothing to write?
Last week, I wrote about Equality, Equity, and Freedom. Ironically, it currently (at time of writing) seems to be one of my least popular articles, ever. None-the-less, I will keep the promise I made in that article.
(you should read last week’s article to get full value from this one)
Today I’m writing about how to :
Conventional wisdom tells us to rely on our strengths, while we work on our weaknesses.
Human equality, and its resultant human rights, are loudly, proudly, and persistently touted as a founding concept of western civilisation.
The United States Declaration of Independence, adopted in 1776, contains the following statement :
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness.
But, the idea, and even the legislation of human equality has existed for far longer than that.
In 1215, in England, the Magna Carta Libertatum (Great Charter of Liberties) was adopted…