Thank you for this. I have never wanted kids and have always been honest to my family/friends on the issue. That hasn’t stopped anyone from invalidating my feelings and guilting me for choosing my own happiness over procreation. You’ve given me the words I need. Sending so many mental hugs your way.
Has it occurred to you that your children are more important than you? They did not ask to be born, you created them. You are responsible for their happiness they are not responsible for yours.
The phrase that springs to mind is which applys to you is 100 percent self centred, you should be ashamed.