I have bad timing when it comes to ending phone calls with friends.
I had two phone calls today. Both were supposed to be 10–20 minutes conversations that lasted well over 40 minutes. Not good.
I had no intentions of having long conversations. I had even prefaced the phone calls by stating that they would be quick.
I reflected on myself after the last phone call. They were within 15 minutes apart. I realized that I would always speak for most of the duration of the calls. I’d also go off on many tangents.
This is bad. I get off topic and we end up having to backtrack most of the time. Finally, I discussed the reasons for our phone calls after 5–10 minutes of bouncing around.
At the end I would ask, “Do you have any questions for me?”
Both of my friends responded with somethings similar to, “No, everything sounds good.”
Right there I should’ve ended the phone calls. Instead, I spent 5+ minutes reiterating our conversations — all because I felt that I dominated the calls and they should have a chance to take over.
I would prod and ask leading questions in hopes of them asking me questions. Totally wasting our time.
Now I’m over it.
I vow to start timing and limiting myself on my phone calls.