3 people you must not lend/owe money to

Roshan D Souza
Jul 28, 2017 · 3 min read

Well before I begin I must say that when it comes to money, things get a little iffy. But if you agreed to do business or promise to return the money back, just do it and don’t be an a***h**e about it. Don’t get into things that you cannot handle because no two people are the same. Some people just stay quiet for things to take its own pace but some act on it pronto (I must say I belong to the latter category).

So let’s see now who are the people who you DONOT WANT TO LEND MONEY TO.

1. Relatives

The worst kind are the relatives. There’s so many ifs and buts here. Just make sure that if you lend money to a relative, you cannot ask for it back because you ain’t getting it. There’s hopefully a world where people are considerate about the fact that the money was lent to them when they asked for it but NO, we don’t live in a perfect world now do we. There are ways to get the money back though but you just have to let go of your feelings and talk business. Now that’s what I call a perfect deal. There’s a good chance that you will never hear from them again but you’d just wish that they had the decency to return the money back when they were supposed to and not make a fuss of it. They might guilt you into believing you are wrong but don’t worry, you did the right thing.

2. Family friends

If not the worst, they are equally as bad as the Relatives but just the baggage is a little lesser here. But nonetheless, they too will make you feel guilty of the fact that you for the money back they owe you. Again, don’t fall for it. Its all a move to delay the inevitable. If it has come to a point where you have to ask for it back, the relationship is half broken. If the person is important to you, I guess you could give it sometime but the right thing to do is to lay your foot down and go down swinging. Whatever happened to being a professional or being the responsible family friend that you expect them to be? That’s just out of the window when it comes to money. If they truly are a responsible family friend, you would not be reading this. If they trick you into making you believe that the relationship is going downhill because of the fuss you made about the money, well don’t fall for it because it is all THEIR fault in the first place and NOT YOURS. They put you in this position. So swipe left

3. Friends

Ah, well if you are reading this then you know which one matters the most. The most coveted relationship that you donot want to loose at any cost but things are just not working out for you. You hold on thinking its gonna get better but NO, once an a**h***e always an a**h***e right? Never ever, I mean ever lend/owe money to the people of this category. They will make you think, they will make you bleed, they will sometimes trick YOU into apologising for being an a**h***e. That’s when you go home realise that you really don’t need this which makes you furious. If its business you care then its always strictly business. Nothing personal, no doing favours to anyone. Just simply plain and simple business. You simply bring down that axe if things don’t work. If he/she is a considerate and a mature person, they would realise the mistake. If they didn’t, well you know what to do but its the hardest thing to do. Now that’s the type of friends you really don’t want to have. You would rather have a friend who does not put you in that position. Its as simple as that.

Well this blog is a mixture of personal experience and observations. I know many who are in that awkward position or been there and don’t know how to deal with it. Well here’s my 2 cents if this helps you make a decision. May the force be with you.

Roshan D Souza

Food Lover and a Fitness Freak, An Entrepreneur clawing my way into the Food Tech industry, an avid Music Lover, and love Photography. Yup, that’s me alright

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