How To Focus Your Deep Love On Your Child
Unstoppable, unspoken ways to show your child love.
When I was three years old my mother picked me up and threw me across the room onto a sofa. I was astonished, I wasn’t used to being treated like this!
Part of the reason is my mother’s childhood. When my mother was eighteen months old, Nan had twin boys. In 1942 that was a very big deal, and my mother got pushed aside, sometimes physically. The boys were idolised and mother was definitely shown she was less important than them.
So when mother had my sister, she did the same to me. I was pushed aside and treated badly. We parent the way we have been parented. Every single event is there in our subconscious and it is what we draw on as the correct method of parenting.
Even if it was a wrong way to parent.
So if I didn’t have a childhood full of love and compassion, what do I know about showing love? I was shown exactly what not to do.
When I decided that my parenting wasn’t good enough I went and got therapy to help me, with anger management. Because of the therapy and some hard work I have become a better Mum myself.
The very fact you have read this far shows that you want to be a good parent. That’s awesome…
