Relaxation — crucial to a healthy life.

Children playing with a ball in an orchard. Relaxation is vital to health, doing something you find fun.
Children playing with a ball in an orchard. Relaxation is vital to health, doing something you find fun.
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I had a terrible night with anxiety the night before last, I didn’t sleep until late and then was awake after nightmares. It wasn’t good at all. I chatted to my friend Anthony about it. He told me an interesting thing. He said it could be because I haven’t had enough rest.

Now, I have ME/CFS and so if I have to sleep, then I have to sleep, I don’t get any choice about it. I resent the hours I have to spend asleep because I have to sleep eleven hours a day…


This is how I see the world of equal rights.

A fruit bow with apples, (red and green) oranges, bananas, a melon and a pineapple.
A fruit bow with apples, (red and green) oranges, bananas, a melon and a pineapple.
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I opened my email today and, to my shock, I have been awarded top writer in Feminism. I told The Husband and son number two, who said: “Oh yeah, I forgot you hate men.”

I want to make it clear that I do not hate men.

This is how I see it.

There are two fruits, apples and oranges. Apples are different to oranges. They are both fruit, and they can be equally considered fruit.

Apples are great in pies. Oranges are great with duck. Apples are great as a…


I didn’t know I had characteristics of low self-esteem.

woman with long brown hair, wearing a black leather jacket blowing space dust into the dark street
woman with long brown hair, wearing a black leather jacket blowing space dust into the dark street
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Up until the last few days, if anyone had asked me about my self-esteem, I would have said it was medium to high. Most days I am confident in myself, confident that my writing doesn’t suck. Confident that I am a good Mum to the boys. I am able to stand my ground if anyone called me to account over my weight.

All in all, pretty much okay.

I now think I am wrong.

I wanted to write a piece or a series of pieces on self-esteem. Yesterday I began researching…


For the girls of today and the women of the future.

Men marching for women’s rights. Four men holding a banner which reads Men of Quality Respect Women’s Equality.
Men marching for women’s rights. Four men holding a banner which reads Men of Quality Respect Women’s Equality.
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I’ve read quite a few things about men not respecting women in the last few days. I thought today I would write about how I’m teaching my sons to respect women.
I don’t want you to think I am somehow boasting. My sons are twelve-years-old and sixteen-years-old, and so they are still a work in progress.

And please, if you have any other ideas about teaching boys to be respectful, please let me know. I’m open to any new ideas!

Television and Media

We sometimes watch television together, and when we do I make sure I point out sexist attitudes…


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I have a husband, and one time he said: “Once women get to about 35 years old, they should be used to periods and shouldn’t moan about them any more.” Obviously, that was the day I killed him.

No, I didn’t really kill him, but he did get verbally killed on Facebook when I told my friends about him. Well, he deserved it.

It was a few years ago now and we are still talking about it from time to time.

My point is, sometimes ordinarily non-sexist males slip up. We all do it. …


A simple strategy to handle mental issues that you can easily use at home.

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It’s a well-known fact that therapists don’t fix people.

We all think when we go to therapy, our therapist puts us straight. Actually, that isn’t true. A therapist will listen to us. They might suggest things to us, different ways of thinking of issues. But the real work on ourselves is what we do at home. The working things out, the shedding of tears, the drawing of new conclusions. We are the ones that do that.

While working with a therapist is useful, there are some things we can do at home, by ourselves, that will help us with our…


A grateful spirit writes to her home.

With Permission

Hello body,

I want to thank you for housing me all these years.

We have been through so much together. So many bad things.

I want you to know that, although many people say you are too big, I do understand why. I know you are protecting me.

We know who from, too, don’t we?

One day we will work it all out and then we will revert to normal size.

I look forward to then because secretly we really want to run. We know running will be so fun. …


Unstoppable, unspoken ways to show your child love.

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When I was three years old my mother picked me up and threw me across the room onto a sofa. I was astonished, I wasn’t used to being treated like this!

Part of the reason is my mother’s childhood. When my mother was eighteen months old, Nan had twin boys. In 1942 that was a very big deal, and my mother got pushed aside, sometimes physically. The boys were idolised and mother was definitely shown she was less important than them.

So when mother had my sister, she did the same to me. I was pushed aside and treated badly…

Ruth Stewart

I write about my interests which include psychology, family, relationships, autism and lots more. You’ll mostly find me here on Medium. She/her.

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