A Letter to My Daughter About Young Men
Benjamin Sledge
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What you forget is that the populations of men and women are about equal, with a slightly higher female population (due to shorter life spans among men). So, if honorable men are so rare, what are women (including your daughter) supposed to do? Fight over the scraps of what’s left of decency? It seems these days that dating men is about compromise, it’s about settling for what is ‘good enough.’ Where is the courageous man, the free man, the man who listens and is capable of adapting to changing circumstances? All I see around me are weak men who spend their days in offices and cars who lurch from one pleasurable substance to the next, who are inflexible and unable to adapt both in mind and body. The women I know have put a lot of energy into self-development, into becoming both strong and flexible in mind and body. They have done the meditations, changed their diets, and are evolving in self-knowledge and self-awareness. But the consciousness gap is widening, not closing. I am 45. I hope that future generations of men get over their reactive fear of the feminine and recognize that self-knowledge is strength, and that it takes effort from both partners to build a healthy relationship, that the onus of responsibility doesn’t just fall upon the female to learn how to ‘accept the man for the way that he is.’