I don’t know if you were looking for a real answer to the question your article poses, but I will say that I once read a book on the topic of luck that said a huge part of “luck” is the willingness to relocate to get what you want (a dream job, for instance). I am only in a happy, committed relationship because my partner was willing to move across the country. Granted, we knew each other much better than one date before he did, but there were months early on when we kept in touch from three time zones apart even though the situation seemed impossible to resolve (for this and other reasons).
We both wondered if we were setting ourselves up for heartache. We both knew we might be. We both decided it was worth the risk. Ultimately, it was. We had no guarantee it would be. We wanted the relationship, it was clearly the direction life was leading, and I have to believe there’s value in the wholehearted pursuit of what we want, even if it’s risky. You lose what you wanted? You gain experience and strength. “Stranded” in a city you wouldn’t have chosen? Moving back is always an option… As you well understand, there’s no guarantee staying at home is a safer move than going out — metaphorical trees can fall on our metaphorical roofs.
It would be easy for someone to say we were lucky in love, and in a sense, we are for having found each other at all, but our situation would be impossible if neither of us had that willingness to relocate. Without that willingness, we’d be star-crossed lovers with the awful misfortune, the lucklessness, of having lives in separate cities. (If the NYC dating scene is that bad, is it worth moving to a place it’s better?) Wish I could remember the other two parts of luck for you, but this is the one that stuck with me because I know it’s true :)