Dear well-meaning white friends

Samantha Burton
Jul 8, 2016 · 6 min read

If you are outraged at the killings of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile, and other black men and women -

If you want to be allies in achieving the goals of the LGBTQ2S community and Black Lives Matter, and in particular the Black Lives Matter-Toronto chapter’s action at Toronto’s Pride Parade -

If you are a white person who, like me, is outraged, devastated, made sick by how black people and other marginalized communities are continually, violently oppressed by this system built on fear, power, and racism — by the system that we are part of, and complicit in -

Dear well-meaning white friends, if this is you — as it is me — this is what we need to do.

1.Educate ourselves

As Ijeoma Oluo said so well, after Walter Scott was shot in the back by a cop in 2015,

“Dear well-meaning white friends… Your black friends are busy working through their own grief while trying to stay alive — they don’t have space for your feelings and they don’t have time to educate you.

These conversations are rooted in a fundamental misunderstanding of racism and racial oppression in America: It’s not black America’s problem, it’s yours.”

We white people can and must educate ourselves, in order to take ownership of addressing systemic racism.

Learn about what happened at Pride 2016

Buzzfeed has a really good rundown of events. Go have a look at that. I’ll wait here.

Updates:

Learn about the history and present of inclusiveness at Pride

Learn about Black Lives Matter-Toronto and their action at Toronto Pride 2016, by listening to people of color

Learn about systemic violence and racism by the police force against black people.

Learn through the stories of black people who have been targeted and killed by police. Speak their names. Bear witness.

These are only a few of the many:

Learn how to respond to people who try to take down Black Lives Matter by saying “All Lives Matter”

Start with this guide to debunking the need for “All Lives Matter” and its rhetorical cousins.

2. Set ourselves up to learn more

Join Black Lives Matter-Toronto on Facebook and Twitter.

I think this is the best way to keep in touch with what’s happening in real-time. Note that Black Lives Matter-Toronto will at times lead events or discussions specifically for people of color only. It is important for us to support and be respectful of the need for a community to make plans with community members, and as allies our role is to support — not create or be represented in — those plans.

3. Help other well-meaning white friends, parents, colleagues learn

It’s shitty to acknowledge, but a white person is in a better position to influence the perspectives of other white people. This is where we need to use our privilege for change.

It is not black people’s job to educate white people about racism and oppression. It’s our job to educate ourselves and each other. Start by:

4. Support with money

There’s at times a weird resistance to donating cash to support a cause, but giving money is often the most effective and helpful action you can take.

By giving money, we’re enabling the leaders of a movement or the family of a victim to focus on the most important work — creating change and/or caring for their loved ones — instead of finding supplies or putting food on the table.

This is vital and important.

5. Write our representatives

You have more pull than you might think with political and other representatives.

If you believe Black Lives Matter-Toronto should be heard and have their demands met, or have other thoughts to share, please tell:


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