When I was five, my grandfather tried to convince me that men were superior to women.
I don’t remember this, being so young at the time, but my mother has since recounted the story to me. I was standing there, looking up at my beloved grandpa with wide eyes, nodding along when she walked in and heard what he was saying.
After that, she never allowed me to be alone with him again — not until I was older and less impressionable, anyway.
‘Enough’ — so much of our identity revolves around that one little word.
And truth be told, I’m scared to death to have a daughter of my own because of it. …
Dear Men —
We all have our own individual challenges. Life can be tough for everyone.
Unfortunately, for some reason women still have the specific challenge of warding off unwanted attention, judgment, and pointed remarks from people who expect us to bend ourselves to their “humble” opinions.
And before you go #notallmen me, yes, I know. I really shouldn’t have to say that, but some of you get defensive right off the bat. So for the record, I am of course aware that some of you do your best not to be sexist and patronizing.
But, if you fall into one of the categories below, take a step back and examine your behavior. Whether you intend to be misogynistic or not, these are things women encounter extremely frequently. It’s not fun, it’s not helpful, and most of the time it ranges from insulting to downright threatening. …
Fellow humans —
The world feels heavy right now.
2020 changed all of us, in one way or another. People lost jobs. Businesses shut down. Society turned on one another, and a lot of people died. It was a year of turmoil and division, but if we can learn from it, hopefully it was also a year of progress.
It wasn’t hard to see that as the year went on, people all over — across the U.S. and the world — became more and more judgmental. More divisive. In some places, even downright vicious.
And in some cases, it was justified. But I look at the end result and wonder — if those people looked in the mirror, would they still like what they saw? …
I was once invited on a party yacht by a group of strangers I’d just met at the bar.
It was trivia night, and we’d hit it off. I, ever the social butterfly, had somehow made such an impression that they wanted me to come on their yacht the next day to continue the party.
To this day I’m not sure why I made such an impression. My sense of humor, my ability to mingle, or just my eagerness to clink drinks — who knows.
But truthfully, it wasn’t that unique of an occurrence at that point in my life. And I don’t say that to brag. There were several years in my early twenties when all I wanted to do was be social and see where each day’s adventures took me. …
“We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it’s a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift.”
― Marilyn Monroe
You have feelings. You have urges. We all do — and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. And yet, so many of us were brought up to believe sex and anything to do with it was dirty. Shameful.
For some, that’s still the case. And sadly, along with that sense of shame often comes a whole lot of ignorance.
For myself, sex was so hush-hush growing up that I didn’t even really understand my own body until I was a young adult. …
“Ignore her, it’s just her time of the month.”
“Psst, do you have a tampon?”
“Hey, can you check my back?”
For as long as I can remember, periods have been an inappropriate topic in my family, and around everyone I knew.
It was something we lived with but didn’t learn much about, and endured without discussing. Because the mere fact that we had a menstrual cycle was something considered inappropriate.
And I’m not alone in experiencing this.
58% of women report having been embarrassed for the sole reason that they were on their period. 42% report having been shamed for it. …
Sometimes, writing isn’t easy. Between the rejection, writer’s block, haters on the internet, odd hours, self-doubt, the ache in your neck from sitting at the desk all day — a life of putting your words out into the world can leave a lot to be desired.
Needless to say, it’s easy to lose confidence in your work.
And yet, writers persevere. We keep going because of our passion, our drive to tell a story that’s inside of us, and perhaps even our desire to make our mark in the world.
When everything around us is telling us it’s too hard and this absolutely won’t work, we keep at it because of that little voice in the back of our minds that says, “But what if it does?” …
You might have heard people joke around, or sing the song, that “females are strong as hell”. But the truth is that it’s actually no joke. Or, perhaps it shouldn’t be.
In a world that often still treats women as if we’re worth less than men, we still manage to thrive. Women have greater resilience — in dealing with stressors, in our relationships, and in the way we think about the future.
And across the globe, we tend to live longer, too.
We’re labeled the weaker sex — even though we bleed each month and go on living, we go through hormonal changes throughout our lives and adapt, and we can grow another human and have our bodies literally shift to help it come out into the world. …
Sometimes the ones we love most in the world are the ones we most take for granted. Or, sometimes they’re even the ones we hurt the deepest.
And in times of stress and uncertainty, often we suddenly remember how glad we are that they’re still here by our side — even if we don’t show it. Times like these, when each day is a challenge and so many people don’t have the option to be with the ones they love.
But showing your appreciation means something.
It makes a difference, because everyone wants to feel loved, supported, and appreciated. It’s in our nature to crave human connection. And too often we forget how important it is for the ones we love to know how much we appreciate them. …
Just after college, I moved in with my best friend who had just started grad school. We were excited to live together, but the move was spontaneous and for me, rather foolish.
Because for the life of me, I could not find a job.
When I originally planned to move in with her, I had a job somewhat lined up so I was confident that I’d be financially okay. But as it turns out, I put all my eggs in that basket and was definitely overconfident, because the job fell through. …