I want to respond to this, but how, what you say about male and female perception is bang on the money, I started adult life as an exstreme introvert and went for long periods (days.)without saying a word to people, trying to stay out of everyones hair, but now I smile at almost everyone I meet and people openly wonder how I’ve avioded marriage and children and just don’t believe that once I wouldn’t have spoken a word to them, for love nore money.
I have learnt that people expect to be spoken to but wont pay attention if you do and generally aren’t interested, so as an introvert I used it as an excuse not to talk to them. I when I did talk to people, I was a very blunt instrument indeed, though not intentionally.
However in my late 20’s I changed my approach, talking to people with a smile came eventually, still a blunt instrument though, but I marvel at our similar conclusions coming from each end of the social spectrum.