Signs You Are In A Toxic Relationship
Better being single than staying in a toxic relationship

“A toxic relationship is a relationship characterized by behaviors on the part of the toxic partner that are emotionally. While a healthy relationship contributes to our self-esteem and emotional energy, a toxic relationship damages self-esteem and drains energy” — Thomas Cory
Signs You Are In A Toxic Relationship
More downs than ups; Every relationship has it’s ups and downs we all agree. But some relationships start with lots of ups and after time passes there’s only downs and the only up that one may seem to see is good sex I believe we both know how good Sex can keep a toxic relationship going on for a long time.
Your partner is controlling and extremely jealous; “A partner who insists on being hyper close and doing everything together or doesn’t allow you to be by yourself and is constantly monitoring or questioning your whereabouts and intentions indicates a toxic relationship” — Dr GaryLewandowski.
You do all the work & compromise; even the love & effort only comes from you. A relationship is good and long lasting when two people choose to work for it. Karen Young says “Nobody can hold a relationship together when they are the only one doing the work. It’s lonely and it’s exhausting”. You keep on telling yourself “he/she’s gonna change” now let’s be brutally honest here the possibility of them changing is very small.
You hate your family; sometimes toxic partners can make you feel like they are only ones who love you and not your family because your family says that they aren’t good for you and if your partner doesn’t want you to see that too or understand your family’s point of view they sugarcoat themselves and make you see only the negatives about your family and forget your family was there for you way before your partner was.
You make excuses for them; when your family or friends notice how toxic your partner is and they tell you, you do everything in your power to make excuses for him/her or even say “you guys don’t understand he/she loves me”. Sadly sometimes you might find yourself making excuses for them even for the questions that you have.
Your partner plays the victim card; when you stand up for yourself and try to critisize them for what they did they play the victims, blame you for their bad behaviours and sometimes even twist the whole story just for you to feel like you are the problem and apologize where you end up apologizing too often even for things you didn’t do and aren’t your fault.
You are not happy; “Love should never cost you your peace. It should never cost you your joy. It should never cost you your happiness, if there’s more negative in the situation than positive, something has to change.” — Carolyn Gamble.
Self-Betrayal; You hide your opinions just to please your partner and having the fear there will be constant judgment of you by being you. Toxic relationships can cause us to slowly begin accepting what was once not acceptable.
What You Can Do About It
Talk to your partner about what you like and don’t like about the way they treat you. Sometimes they may not be aware of their behaviour, and telling them gives them the opportunity to recognise it, and change negative patterns.
You can’t change someone who doesn’t see an issue in their actions
Talk to someone you trust and asking them as the otsider what they think of the relationship. You know how you easily see your friend is in a toxic relationship and they don’t see it? Well it’s easy for them to see too if you are in one. Remember be ready to accept what they say and not get deffensive.
Walk Away sometimes relationships just don’t work out and if you feel nothing is changing and it’s not good for your wellbeing, it’s about time. “Leaving a relationship is never easy, but staying for too long in a toxic relationship will make sure any strength, courage and confidence in you is eroded down to nothing. Once that happens, you’re stuck” — Karen Young.
You’ll Never find the right person if you never let go of the wrong one.
With Love,
Sandrahope M.
