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In the past year, we’ve been in a process of figuring out a sustainable future for Enrol Yourself — asking ourselves how we can survive and thrive, while retaining our values.

One of the actions from this process was to design our Host Fellowship — a 1 year programme of support to help facilitators become Learning Marathon Hosts, wherever they are in the world.

After a long recruitment and selection process, we are SO excited to announce our first cohort of Host Fellows!

In most people’s minds, the word ‘self care’ often conjures up images of a white woman in a steaming bubble bath, with a mug of peppermint tea and a face mask on.

Whilst having oil-laced bubble baths is a perfectly valid form of self care, there is so much more to self love than that (and no, it isn’t just for women either)!

So what does the term self love (and its buddy self care) really mean?

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Loving yourself means working towards becoming your own best friend, cheerleader, parent and teacher. It means starting on the journey of deeply getting to know your ins and outs and developing self-compassion by taking your personal history into account. …

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On January 18th I embarked on a personal challenge: writing every day for 12 days.

I’m kind of a perfectionist and I’m learning to let go of control, so writing every day, having little time for editing and being accountable to someone for it seemed to be something I just needed to jump in & do. It was hard at times and I did take a weekend off, but it really gave me more confidence in my own writing skills and knowledge. So yay!

I chose to write about 12 important relationship skills because that’s what I care about and what I wanna share with the world. Relationships can be difficult, and there’s a lot of stuff to navigate. That shit requires SKILLS to get right, so it’s important to learn as much as we can about it, and practice acceptance and patience while on this path. …

Spoiler: it’s not drugs (sorry)

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Oh look, it’s a laptop in the woods

I’m building a business from scratch. I’ve been working super hard in the past 6 months, thanks to surges of spring & summer energies and a fantastic peer-led programme called Enrol Yourself.

But now it’s winter & I’m fucking tired.

The light is slowly retracting earlier and my body disagrees with it, confused at the premature darkness.

They say entrepreneurs work on average 60 hours a week — perhaps more if they have another job & have created their business alongside that.

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Photo by Steinar Engeland on Unsplash

To ‘ghost’ someone is to suddenly disappear without explanation — this can happen permanently or temporarily and it usually happens digitally.

Ghosting, a bit like ‘Netflix & chill’ and the idea of ‘catching feelings’, is a symptom of a disconnected society that’s terrified of intimacy — or rather, longs for it but is told it can only receive it by first pretending it doesn’t want it.

The sole fact that we have a widespread term for it speaks volumes. …


Sarah Adefehinti

Self-love & relationship coach — Founder of Loving with the Lights On: holistic relationship workshops for adults

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