Stop asking me “What do you do?” when you meet me.

Not because it’s annoying, it’s mainly because I don’t have a clue! Although maybe you can help me by asking me something else.

I entered grad school having a laser pointed idea of my goals. I was destined to be a digital product designer. I had high hopes of creating new flashy products to make the digital experience of users better. I’m now half way through my course and am as clear as a desert sand storm.

I started my masters degree in Digital Experience Design at Hyper Island UK mid January 2016. Coming from a production background as a motion graphics designer I wanted to branch away and become more strategic and future ready. Future ready in my mind was being digital ready and a job that will not be taken by bots or robots. Unless that bot did my work for me so I could sit at home and watch youtube videos of surgeries. (I’m an amateur surgeon, by amateur I mean I watch a lot of Greys Anatomy.)

In the span of 3 months my idea of my future has been turned upside down, my house is filled with post its and my brain is a large fuzzy gumball machine full of gumballs that represent my future.

I learned at grad school that it’s not WHAT I want to be, it’s WHY I want to do it.

I am incredibly fortunate and appreciative to have this opportunity to shape my future or as Hyper Island calls it Change My Tomorrow. As much as I’m excited, I’m also just as confused. Grad school has opened my eyes to a whole new world for me.

Maybe I don’t have to “be someone” or “do something” Maybe I could just……well…. “be me”.

Adults always ask kids “What do you want to be when you grow up?”

The timeline of the purpose of our life as follows:

  1. When you are young you are asked “What do you want to be when you grow up?”
  2. When you are in high school you are told “Choose a subject that will define what you want to do when you grow up.”
  3. When you are in college you are told “Choose a job that will start to define you when you grow up”
  4. When you meet someone the first thing they ask you is “What do you do?
  5. When you grow up you ask yourself “What did I do all this time?”

From childhood to adulthood we are continuously questioned what our role in society will be but never what our passion is, better yet why we like doing what we are doing.

Instead of: What is your future going to be? Why not ask: What do you love doing now?

Rather than asking a small child “What do you want to be when you grow up?

Why not ask them what do you love doing now?
What are you most passionate about? 
What keeps you awake at night? 
What do you spend your time reading or looking at?

Will it then help us when we are adults have a clear idea of what we truly want to spend 40–50 hours of our day doing?

I’m an adult now and still have no idea what I want to be. I still don’t know why I want to do what I want to do.

Oh and next time you see me please don’t ask me “What do you do” I will either lie or just say I’m an amateur surgeon.

Please ask me: What do you love doing?

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