The Parable of The Farmer and His Land
A Thought on Cultivation Through Introspection
Once there was a successful farmer who was blessed with a green thumb. Anything that he laid his hands upon, any plant that his hands touched, any field that he cultivated, grew into lush green vegetation. It comes as no surprise that his farm is the main source of the crops in their small town. With his experience and the recognition that he receives from his townsfolk, it reinforced his self-worth and belief that he can cultivate any field there is.
One day in the field while he was tilling the soil, an old man stopped by to watch him. The old man stood there to watch for an hour long and the farmer became curious. The farmer initiated by asking a question, “Say, what brought you here, Mister?”
“All these, you have cultivated?” Pointing to the plethora of greenery.
“Yes.” The farmer replied, “What made you ask?”
“It is an amazing gift you have. You remind me of my good old days.”
The farmer with an inquisitive look, asked, “Good old days? What do you mean, mister?”
“I also share the same gift you have, but it was a long, long time ago. It’s been ages since I held with the palm of my hands the soil of my farm. If it weren’t for that plant…”
“What is ‘that’ plant?”
The old man clenched his fist, “That cursed plant and its seed. It’s the reason why my land became desolate. I have no idea what became of the soil I tended for years.” The old man showed took his pouch from his bag and showed it do the farmer. “I have managed to save some of those seeds. My grandfather once told me that this plant can provide a multitude of cures for different types of sicknesses. I became desperate to cultivate it, but to no avail, I failed. It kept dying, and eventually, even my other crops. It may have transformed my field to the barren state that it is now, I still believe of what my grandfather told me.”
The farmer got challenged. If he can make the plant grow, it will give him the validation that he surpassed where the old man has failed. Plus, he will become the source of this herbal medicine that can cure any disease. The prospect of this challenge is too big for him to pass on. The farmer was up for the task. Luckily, the old man was willing to give the seeds to him. The farmer insisted to give the old man some of his vegetables, but as he was about to hand to the old man the vegetables, the old man vanished. He looked to his left and to his right, but the old man was nowhere to be found. What remained was the pouch full of those mysterious seeds. He prepared for tomorrow, as the day he will start planting the seeds. Just thinking of the task formed a big grin on his face.
Tomorrow came, waking up quite early than usual, the farmer started tilling the land to where he will plant the seeds. After a long day of work, he has successfully set the seeds into the land. He does not know when this plant will start to grow; it could take weeks, months, or even years, but he’s willing to wait for it. Being the farmer that he is, if there is one skill that proved to have improved over time, it’s his ability to exercise patience.
After a few weeks, the plant grew a little bud. When the farmer saw this, he was ecstatic, there was improvement! He tended the little bud, gave it the nourishment that it deserves. Sun, water, good soil, fertilizer, and even music to go along to hasten its growth. A month has passed, and the bud grew as a strange plant. It had vines and a weird-looking disfigured stalk. Weird as it may seem, the farmer was still eager to observe its growth. The time he invested and resources to pave way for its development, it’s all worth it the farmer believed.
However, there was an unfortunate event. The plant began to wither as well as his other crops. The farmer was baffled of this misfortune. He went berserk and desperate to the point that he set aside the cultivation of his other crops and focused on this mysterious plant. After a long period of trial and error, up to no avail, the mysterious plant kept dying and dying. He lost hope, he started to question his self-worth, ability, the green thumb that he possesses, even the town was affected since it is his farm that provides the main source of their crops. All went in shambles.
And on a barren, desolate day he decided to go for a walk. Looking over at the dead soil where he stands; he thought he’s already in a desert, to how dead and dry this once vegetated land was. Out of nowhere, the old man that gave him the seed appeared afar. He ran towards the man and he knows that the old man was waiting for him.
With attempts to catch his breath, he asked the old man, “What’s happening to my land?! I didn’t sign up for this!”
“What have I told you? I warned you of its implications and the misfortune that it brought mine.”
“I was mistaken…” Replied the farmer.
“You thought of my misfortune as some obstacle that you can surpass, but where does it leave you now? In the same state that I was years ago. You thought with facetious arrogance that your way will be different, you thought low of my ability. All of this that is happening to you now is no different than mine.”
The farmer feeling sad and all, “How will I bring back my land to its previous state?”
“You can’t. Not anymore.” Then the old man started to fade, as if he was merely a hazy illusion.
The farmer was left dumbstruck. What is he to do now? He has lost his magnificence as a farmer, his success of having the greenest and lusher vegetation than anyone, everything was lost… Or so he thought. He still hasn’t lost his land, although barren and desolate, he can still do something about it.
The farmer saw one of the withering stalks of the mysterious plant. The farmer tried to pull it off the ground, but to his surprise, it was established heavily as if the roots were reaching six feet below. He tried using his truck to pull the plant out of its roots and he was somewhat successful. What he saw when he got down his truck was unbelievable. The root of the mysterious plant went in a lateral direction underground that it became tangled with the roots of other withering plants. The farmer, curious enough as he was, did his research and discovered the origins of the plant. To his amazement, the mysterious plant has its root run deep, so deep that it takes up the space of the roots of other plants if it cannot reach down below. If that’s the case, the farmer thought, then it is not the mysterious plant that causes the problem, but what is down below.
He thought of excavating what is underneath his land. Whatever he will uncover, the farmer thought, it is the reason for the root of the mysterious plant to go haywire. He went on a long, arduous process of digging; he went digging too deep as if he was excavating for some dinosaur remain. While he was in engrossed in his digging momentum, the metallic part of his shovel clashed with a metallic surface. The farmer was boggled, what could this metallic surface be? He tried pounding the metallic surface and dig the sides, then out of nowhere, there was a big explosion. The explosion was so big that it created a mushroom cloud… The metallic thing was apparently a World War II nuclear warhead.
The End! ☺
Just kidding. Think of this as a thought experiment and that scenario could be one of the instances that might have happened, because if it were not, where’s the fun in that? Going back!
While he was in engrossed in his digging momentum, the metallic part of his shovel clashed with a metallic surface. The farmer was boggled, what could this metallic surface be? He tried pounding the metallic surface and started digging the sides, what he found has aroused a concoction of emotions: excitement, awe, happiness, and elation. Underneath his land was chunks of diamond reserves all throughout.
After a year, the farmer became wealthy from the diamond that he excavated. He also redeemed the magnificent state of his farm, filled with lush green vegetation. His relations with the townsfolk has earned him a place in their town again. The mysterious plant became the center of the farmer’s plantation and it provided the cure to a multitude of diseases.
The Lesson
Think of the farmer as your consciousness and the Land as your emotional baggage. In a Psychodynamic perspective, childhood is the period of your life wherein you start to familiarize yourself with the toxic shame that you repulsively identify and try your best to hide, much more as you come into age. You start to develop defense mechanisms that will be able to hide your toxic shame well. And as time passes, the soil of the land starts to pile up and your toxic shame becomes deeper and deeper, that is becoming harder to reach at the point of your adulthood.
Its repercussions may not seem obvious at first, but this starts to unconsciously affect your belief system and your interpersonal relationships with other people. That is why some people at work act counterproductive and even students at school act with such misconduct. This toxic shame paradigm that unconsciously starts to dominate your thought process, starts to create toxic relationships with other people. Other people may be withdrawn, hysterical, depressed most of the time, easily frustrated, easily bored, desiring for attention, overcompensation for inferiority & insecurity, and etc. Because this is how their childhood’s self-defense mechanism, be it regression, applies. It is an unsophisticated way to deal with your emotional baggage that you have in your adulthood.
Say that the mysterious plant in the story is your ticket to achieve great heights of success and happiness, but in the midst of achieving that success, something happens in between. There is “something” that gets in the way. What prevents that ticket to success or happiness from taking root in your life is the toxic shame that you have buried for a long time, the metal that fights the root from taking hold, therefore making that ticket to happiness become shallow. And so the land dies along with it. You may opt to cultivate other plants, but it does not equate to how deep those plants will go unlike that mysterious plant which is your ticket to happiness and success.
It is not enough that you keep on planting—seek what is not in your control for validation of your deficiencies—on your land, if the land itself is not healthy. You must overcome that compulsion to hide your toxic shame by introspecting. By recognizing the inner truths that you have of yourself that you try so hard to hide from others. You have this tendency to appear invulnerable, to appear strong in front of other people, but it is not really who you are, but what you want to seem to be. Fake it until you make it? It won’t cut it, especially if it does not align itself to your belief system. It will be one of your greatest time-sinks, wallowing away wearing masks to seem impressive, to please. If that is the case, then whose frame are you doing it for? What is clear is that it is not you. You’re not doing it for yourself, but for others to be pleased with you. You succumb to pressure and you seem lost, though you may have what others envy, there will always be something that lacks… That thing that you lack is the toxic shame you buried, you tried to hide for so long to appear invulnerable, but the single greatest action is to come into terms with it. To be vulnerable, to express your own truth, to be just the way you are.
Take it from the parable of the farmer. It is by fully embracing the grit of himself that he was able to discover a hidden treasure. That toxic shame that you once tried to bury with all your might, turned out to be something that can be of use to you, now that it has become a diamond. Years of being buried turned the carbon into something precious. It is somehow justifiable that you go to great lengths to bury your toxic shame at an early age, but your maturity must guide you in taking that time to discover what you buried underneath the land. Only then you will be fully open to your truth and vulnerability without any shame to hide. You will get rejected by others, for some may not like who you really are, but there are also those who will accept your true nature, your vulnerabilities, warts and all. Who will put up with you and go to great lengths to fix the relationship with you.
Develop deep relationships with people. Find your own circle of friends and stick to it. Your lifetime won’t be enough to please all the people in this world, so choose who you develop your relationship with, wisely. Just like how the farmer resolves the inner, buried conflict of his land.