Do’s and Don’t’s of Losing Someone You Love
If you’re looking for someone who can comfort you, hold you while you cry, then look somewhere else. I’m not the person for you — I’m not sympathetic, and I’m not empathetic either. I’ve never really lost someone I love, so I can’t share your feelings. I don’t know if you’re crying over your boyfriend dumping you, or if you just lost your grandmother from cancer. I don’t care, actually. But there are plenty of people around you who do.
I’ll bet that that girl with the tattoos yesterday at the mall, she’s been through the same thing. I’ll bet the reason she got those tattoos was to mask her pain. She wants to look tough. But hey — in a way, she did the right thing. She got up, she kept trying. She went on with her life. I know she probably spent a few nights crying, but no more. They’re gone, and they’re never coming back, so you better prepare yourself for your life ahead, because they’re not there anymore.
The girl at the mall did something wrong, though, too. She tried to look like she doesn’t care. That’s not the right thing to do — you need to carry on your loved one’s memory. Remember them, but don’t let them get in the way of your life.
Okay, so I’m not a psychologist, but I think it must feel terrible. That feeling you get when you know there’s no turning back, no going back to the past. If you spend too much time rereading the last chapter, you’ll never finish your book. Don’t dwell on the past — there is nothing you can do to change it. Are you going to control it, or let IT control YOU?
Get on with it. Get up, forgive, but never forget. Be strong. Now get out there, and make the life you’re living one your loved ones can be proud of.